It is the dream of every individual to be successful and happy forever. But various hurdles in family and profession keep that dream from materializing. Birbal was the ministerial adviser in the Kingdom of Akbar, the great.
One day, Akbar asked the minister, the way to have pleasure for long. The ministers advised that sorrow is also a part of happiness as the happiness is recognized only if the individual feels sorrow, at least for some moments.
Immediately the King Akbar ordered the minister Birbal to find out the way to be happy, when he is sorrow and to feel sorrow when he is happy. This easy task was managed quite tactfully by Birbal. He took a piece of paper and wrote-
“This is not permanent” and pasted in front of Akbar’s seat.
He requested Akbar to look at this statement every time he is happy or sad. In unhappy moments, the phrase helped Akbar that it is only a temporary situation and it would pass. In happier moments, it made Akbar to realize not to sit back on the moment for long. It helped Akbar to focus.
Here are few points which will show the way of positive thinking and hence the happiness.
Manage your time perfectly
The problem with most of us, is, we think of entertainment while at work and we think of work while watching a movie. The intuition and concentration at what we are currently doing, and involving ourselves is very important for successful management of time. Let us ditch half-mindedness and half-hearted efforts.
Due to this, in the last moment we will be overloaded and our skill may not be sufficient to complete the task as per expectation.
Ultimately, we will be depressed or unhappy. So, it is very essential to manage the time and do the assignment with utmost care and accomplishment.
Like what you do
When I was doing 3 years post graduation, being 25 – 26 years old, when my friends were really thriving in engineering field, it was really difficult to cope up. I just considered the post graduation time as the stepping stone and indulged myself with complete dedication, learnt a few computer skills which, I am putting into work, now. So, you never know what is in store for you in future. Just indulge yourself 100 % what you do today.
It is only the passion that drives great work. Even if you are not satisfied with what you are doing today, consider this job as the corner stone for the next big assignment that you may take in the future. Because, this job is a corner stone, it needs to be strong. So, indulge yourself 100 % with the current work and hone your skills and improvise.
Love and respect everybody
We live with our family members, colleagues, relatives, friends etc. Our life needs everyone of them, to feel complete. This basic understanding makes us to love and respect the vision, attitude, working pattern, mental status, thinking, speech and action of every individual.
Appreciate the good deeds
It is incredibly essential to find out good in everyone’s work and to appreciate it. Of course, once in a while we need to point out towards mistakes of others, but enough care should be taken to avoid hurting sentiments. Negativity is to be intimated confidentially and by finding suitable place and time.
Smartness in the work and gentleness in the behavior
Overall personality of the individual is estimated by the neatness, discipline and dedication in the work followed with gentleness in behavior. Even though personality, built, gait, dress, look and presentation also significantly contribute in building the positive image, mere one or two aspects cannot fulfill the overall need of the society, life or profession. So, it is very essential to be consistent, progressive, dedicated and disciplined in and out of the personal life. One simple negative habit or behavior may pull down and loss his reputation.
Clarity in thoughts, co-ordination in association, sharing and caring
Successful and humble man always dedicates the credit of his achievement towards his fellow people. Because, he knows that winning another’s heart is the easy way to win the whole world. The actions are brought into practice only when clear thought is originated and evolved from a pure (clear) mind. It needs combined (togetherness), venture from the subordinates, seniors and fellow people by various skills and dedication. So ‘success’ cannot be an individual’s achievement. If felt so, from the very moment, nobody will be there to assist and associate you. Success needs sharing of the achievement and caring of the beloved ones.
The above said marginal points are the steps to happiness. I’m sure you like it and share it, as you care each one of your beloved ones. Best regards.
Article by Dr Hebbar and Dr MS Krishnamurthy MD(Ayu), PhD (Ayu)