Abstinence: Brahmacharya – Benefits, How To Practice, Experiences

Of all the methods and techniques to improve concentation, memory, courage, and positivity, Abstinence – Brahmacharya is the novel most and greatest technique, if you have some faith in spirituality. Though it looks like a spiritual belief, Ayurveda also approves of benefits of abstinence. brahmacharyaAbstinence meaning:

  • Abstinence means Brahmacharya in Sanskrit. Abstinence refers to refraining one’s mind and body in indulgence of sex and sex related matters.
  • At the outset, it appears as if it covers only physical aspect. But it also covers the mental aspect.
  • If you indulge in sex, there is lack of abstinence at the same time, if you imagine about having sex, then also there is lack of abstinence.
  • Lack of abstinence is there if one thinks, sees, hears, chats, touches, indulgence with a desire of sex, there is lack of abstinence.
  • It is almost near to impossible for common people to practice abstinence at the highest level but it is possible to follow abstinence at certain levels based on one’s own capacity and comfort.

Benefits of abstinence: Why abstinence?

  • Brahmacharya is told as one among the three pillars of life. (other two are – food and sleep).
  • Ayurveda details: The Ojas – the essence of immunity is told as byproduct of Shukra (the hormones, semen and other components of sex). Hence, preserving Shukra leads to improvement in immunity.
  • Swamy Vivekananda was able to memorize whatever he used to glance, in a book. By reading a few lines of a paragraph, he used to get the meaning of the rest of the paragraph. He used to say that if one practices absolute abstinence for a period of 12 years, continuous, a special Nadi (nerve power) called Medha Nadi (Medha = intelligence) develops in one’s brain, which leads to tremendous memory and concentration.
  • Abstinence leads to multi-fold improvement in concentration, memory and courage.
  • For students, teenagers and children, abstinence is highly recommended.
  • Abstinence leads to character building.
  • Abstinence imbibes reliability, strength in character and trust worthiness.
  • Abstinence is the fuel for spiritual journey. No spirituality without abstinence.

How to practice abstinence

  • At the outset, it looks almost impossible to follow absolute abstinence. It depends upon one’s mind strength, practice and perseverance.
  • If not full abstinence, teenagers can at least resolve to avoid sexual activities at least till a particular point of time in their lives.
  • For married people, abstinence can be practiced at any available occasions, as in case of pregnancy, menstrual periods, being distant to each other etc.
  • Keeping oneself away from stimulations such as TV, wrong company etc helps follow abstinence.
  • Pranayama helps to keep the mind cool, calm and concentrated.

So, follow abstinence and be abstinent up to your capacity and till the time your mind is capable and enjoy its benefits.

Tips to maintain Brahmacharya
• Waking up early in the morning – Brahmi Muhurtha
• Restricted sleep of 6 – 7 hours
• Eating only for 2 – 3 times a day,
• Avoiding munching
• Avoiding excess of tea, coffee
• Avoiding alcohol, smoking,
• Avoiding excess spicy salty foods
• Controlling anger
• Avoiding junk foods
• Having better control over sense organs
• Having better control over mind
• Improving on focus concentration
• Pranayama and Yoga regularly – Control over breath = control over mind
• Love and compassion towards all
• Guru – able spiritual leader to walk you hand in hand, in the right path.
• Satsanga – company of holy people – mutual encouragement, healthy competition

Does night fall break the Brahmacharya?
Night fall is the common term, used for nocturnal emission, wherein the semen that is collected inside, overflows while the person is sleeping. This does not break Brahmacharya.
If retention of semen was the only criteria for celibacy, then a simple vasectomy operation would have made everyone to follow this noble path. But what actually matters, in following Brahmacharya is purity of heart and mind. Nothing else.

Brahmacharya – Basic need for spiritual journey
Spirituality = Yearning towards higher mental status / Deity.
Spirituality is the journey of control of sense organs and directing all physical and mental strength to take mind to higher planes.

Lack of Brahmacharya
• Physical attraction = mind gets more and more attached to the body.
• Mind is made to concentrate more on physical aspects such as appearance, looks
• Lack of control over sense organs
• Lack of control over mind.
• Worsening of anger, frustration, etc

Concept of 7 tissues of Ayurveda
Ayurveda explains that there are seven body tissues.
• Rasa, Rakta Mamsa, Meda, Asthi, Majja Shukra.
• Food – > Digestion
• Essence part of food –(Rasa Dhatu)
• Rasa nourishes Rakta (Blood)
• Rakta Nourishes Mamsa (muscles).
• Mamsa nourishes Meda (Fat)
• Meda -> Asthi (bone tissue)
• Asthi -> Majja (marrow)
• Majja -> Shukra (reproductive system).

Essence part (fruitful part) of seven body tissues = Ojas.
• Ojas is responsible for overall health, energy and liveliness. It is both a mental and physical factor. It is responsible for – Health maintenance and health promotion – Fight disease – prevent disease
• Ojus is the essence part of all the body tissues. Read more about ojas

Brahmacharya is a way to improve Ojas:
• Increased Ojas = Good mental strength (memory, concentration) = better meditation and spiritual gains
• Increased Ojas = Good physical strength – improved immunity, longevity, freedom from diseases, prolonged life expectancy.
• Depleted Ojas = opposite of the above.

Celibacy – basic foundation of spirituality
• Upon this foundation,
– devotion,
– dedication,
– Spiritual practice
– Self analysis
– Self exploration
– Getting rid of anger, greed,
Ego etc are performed to
Achieve highest spiritual realms.

Brahmacharya for all
• Brahmacharya for spiritual seekers
• Brahmacharya for teenagers
• Brahmacharya for people in their 20s
• Brahmacharya for married people
• Brahmacharya for old people
• For good health of society with high levels of ethics.
• The level of practice across people may wary.

Importance of Brahmacharya during teenage
• Helps the teenager to set the line of discipline
• Improves memory, concentration, focus.
• Improves discretional and analytical strength
• Sets the high tone for the rest of his / her life

Importance of Brahmacharya during 20s.
• Helps to chose better partners
• Helps to chose relationships better
• Helps to define purpose of life, better.
• Improved memory, concentration, health and immunity.

Brahmacharya in married people
• Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa – Married people should once in a while seek solace in forests and do meditation for few days time, before returning to mundane life.
• In Hindu custom, it is advised to abstain from sex during festivities, special days such as no-moon day, etc.
Importance in married people
• Improves mutual relationship
• Helps to put love ahead of lust
• Brings more meaning to relationship
• Makes the sexual relationship all the more interesting – due to self induced rules.

Utility of Bramhacharya in Ayurvedic treatment
• Ayurveda advocates abstinence as a way of life up to one’s strength.
• Abstinence is advocated during chronic illness, during
– Snehakarma – oleation
– Panchakarma procedure,
– post- panchakarma period
– Rasayana – rejuvenating, anti aging treatment procedures. (Brahma Rasayana)

Purity, love for truth, self-control, devotion to sacred rituals and Brahmacharya, Freedom from passion, anger, greed, ego, ignorance, jealousy, dejection and intolerance are Satvik qualities (Charaka Samhita Shareera Sthana 4th chapter).
• One should keenly follow the path of Bramacharya, knowledge, charity, friendship, compassion, happiness, detachment and peace. Charaka Sutrasthana 8/29
Ashtanga Hrudaya Sutrasthana 7th chapter

• Good memory, intelligence, long life, health, nourishment, acuity of sense organs, reputation, strength and slow ageing accrue from disciplined (controlled) indulgence in the women.
• Charaka Samhita, Vimana Sthana, 3rd chapter – during an epidemic disease, one who follows Brahmacharya stands a good chance to withstand the spread of disease.

How Brahmacharya is broken?
• Darshana – looking at women with passionate resolve,
• Sparshan – touching,
• Keli – play,
• Kirtan – praising the qualities of the other sex,
• Guhya-Bhashan – talking in private,
• Sankalpa – determination,
• Adhyavasaya – nearing the other sex with the desire for gratification, intimacy
• Kriyanivritti – sexual act.

Herbs to maintain Brahmacharya
• Bitter and astringent
• Betel Nut -1 gram per day.
• Sandalwood powder – 1 gram per day, along with honey.
• Tulsi – Holy Basil – one leaf per day
• Haritaki – Chebulic myrobalan – Terminalia chebula – fruit rind – one teaspoon per day – for 2 months time, with water or honey.

Rasayana – rejuvenating, anti aging therapy to improve ojas:
• Ancient seers were able to pursue their religious studies, Tapas (Penance), Brahmacharya (celibacy), spiritual knowledge and meditation and also attained heaven.
• Therefore, persons desirous of attaining long life vitality and happiness should practice rejuvenation therapy with complete devotion according to the prescribed procedure.
Brahmacharya as prescription
• In the treatment of Rajayakshma (depleted body tissues, tuberculosis), Brahmacharya is advised. Charaka Chikitsa Sthana 8/187

Research on Brahmacharya
• Experiments on rats have shown that reduced fecundity increases their lifespan.
• In an experiment, castrated men in a mental hospital were shown to live many years more than the normal patients in same environment. Source
• An experiment on male japanese macaque has shown that each ejaculation is costly for the animal, even though this research only considered the calorific content of the ejaculation and not the cost of spermatogenesis itself.

Good books on Bramhacharya
• PRACTICE OF BRAHMACHARYA By SRI SWAMI SIVANANDA. Available for free download here

• Talks with Swami Vivekananda – • Available in amazon – 80 rupees. Available here

Reader’s experience – Mr Harpal Singh
I am in no way well established in brahmacharya, but hopefully you can learn something from my experience. I said in my previous post about getting a routine and try to take it as a challenge to stay strong when seeing girls. However, I have realised that brahmacharya is all about controlling the mind rather than supressing the urge of masturbation, which is unhealthy, so you might as well masturbate if you are going to supress. Make the mind pure with practice and you will be a great man/woman. Start going to the gym REGULARLY. A strong body will help your practice. A weak body is more easily seduced. Whenever you start feeling weak, read the works of Swami Vivekananda or watch his videos about Brahmacharya on youtube. Remember why you started following celibacy, your goal. If you fail, be happy and try again. If loss of semen was loss of life, majority of people on this planet would be dead already. So don’t be fanatic like a lot of you people are on here, no offence. And please stop thinking about doing it for 12 years, relax and just start practicing. You don’t know if you will be alive tomorrow, forget 12 years. It will be hard in the beginning, but relax and keep trying.

Remember, this world is very superficial, and a lot of guys/girl will want you just because of your looks, so why do you run after a world like this? One day you will become old, so leave these things before they leave you. And that doesn’t mean going to the forest and becoming a monk. Enjoy this world whithout being attached to anything. Live like a king. Become who you were meant to be. For me personally I have accepted Swami Vivekananda as my guru and in his works he said that the secret to success is Brahmacharya and obeying your guru without question. So find your ideal/guru and make him/her proud. Don’t think too much and just go for it and obey your guru. And again, don’t be scared that you are going to die because you masturbated. It’s never too late and failure is good. Be happy, canalise your energy in the right direction and stop thinking/worrying too much. I have done that so please don’t make the same mistake, you won’t gain anything. Good luck to all and apologies for any hurtful comments. God bless you all!

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  1. sir,then should we leave masturbation(once a week) at all,so that we can also gain the power…
    How can we preserve the shukra?it always over flows after 28 days if I dont masturbate at all…
    (age:14 years 11 months).

    Thank you

    • See, male genital system starts producing semen from the age of 13 or 14. From this age onwards, it will be produced and it will be ejected out, either manually (masturbation) or by involuntarily (default).

      During young age, if you follow abstinence, by not ejecting out the semen manually, it will help you to gain tremendous concentration and confidence. If it ejected out involuntarily do not worry. Let it happen. No problem. But for the best of your efforts, avoid masturbation. In this effort, if you fail and do masturbation as well, say rarely, that is also fine. Do not curse yourself, forget it and move on. No regrets, no sorry feeling. Just move on and enjoy life 🙂

      Just do not worry. But train your mind for concentration. You will go places.
      Once after you cross the teenage and become a fully grown man, take care of character. Remember, character will be the most powerful weapon in your arsenal.

  2. Thank You Sir,Thank You very much..actually I left masturbation 6 months ago and am experiencing wet dreams after every 28 days…
    Once I had an experience when I had not masturbated for a month and had been encouraged by my teachers,I got an extreme power like Swami Vivekananda.I could remember every single word I was studying just with a glance. I have now started meditating and I will try my best to revive that concentration and confidence again.
    Thank You very much for your help and advice.

  3. Is it necessary to practice abstinence for exactly 12 years?
    Because I have attained that extreme concentration and memory in just a month?

    • Memory is not only the benefit of practicing abstinence.
      It is one among the benefits. The other benefits are – self confidence, concentration, self esteem, robust health, courage, etc.(The list is not all inclusive)

  4. sir, i want to know how abstinence help woman ?? because she has regular monthly period ……

    • Very impressive question and line of thinking. I appreciate.
      Abstinence is not limited to restriction from sexual intercourse. It is both physical and mental phenomenon.
      Abstinence is a way of developing our character,
      Abstinence is a way of improving our concentration, memory and self confidence.
      Abstinence is a dynamic, practical way of maintaining purity and sanctity of body and mind.
      It benefits both men and women alike.

      Coming to physiological point of your query –

      See, abstinence does not yield its fruits like memory, concentration, confidence, etc just by holding back semen or menstrual flow. It is related to holding back and controlling our emotions, and attractions. Physiologically it influences the neuro-hormones.

      Swamy Vivekananda is of the opinion that separate school for female Sanyasins should be run be ladies only and the two schools of Sanyasins, of men and women should never be mixed. Because, the curtain that differs ‘Matha’ – The God from ‘Maya’ – the illusion – is very very thin.

      • as per my knowledge , vivekananda never said about restriction on meetings of male and female sannyasins. i would like to add that bramhachrjya is not absent from sexual activities but it is the control of sexual energy . you are the controller use it as per your requirement as a sound controller. best is that control ejaculation as per tantric methods.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Dear sir, many thanks for the comments.
          Let me quote an excerpt from the book – “Talks with Swamy Vivekananda”, which is the conversation between a disciple and Swamiji.
          Once Swamiji with his disciple (author of the above book), go to inaugurate a Female Brahmacharini school. While on their way, Swamiji clearly says that – Female Sanyasini Ashram should be entirely separately built far away from male Sanyasi Ashram.
          – Sanyasini Ashram should be entirely and independently handled by Sanyasinis, without any interference from Male counterparts.

          The purpose of the above two sentences are very clear. Maya can come in many ways to obstruct Sanyasi’s noble Path. a Sanyasi should always, in his sleep and while he is awake should be extra careful to follow his Dharma diligently with extra care.

          Brahmacharya is the control of both Sexual activity and sexual energy.
          You cannot control sexual energy without avoiding sexual activities.

          I am unaware of Tantric methods of controlling ejaculation. If you know, please share with us. It will be useful to lot of aspirants.
          Thanks and regards
          Dr Hebbar

  5. Thanks to your nice reply. Actually i want to know the theory of control monthly period.I practice abstinence but menstrual period break it. i think it is easy for male to preserve semen but for woman it is hard to control period. i regular do yoga and pranayama or try my best to free from attraction…..

  6. Hello Dr Hebbar
    I actually had a question regarding abhyanga. I want to use sesam seed oil for massage, but I don’t have any ayurvedic stores here so the only sesam seed oil I can get is “KTC Pure Sesam Seed Oil” I was hoping if you could tell me if I can use this oil for massage? Also can I apply this before going to bed and take shower next day (if this increases the effect?).

    Thanks on behalf

    • Dear Mr Harpal,
      There is no special ‘Ayurvedic’ sesame oil. Even for Ayurvedic purposes, we use the one available in general store. so, yes, you can use the same sesame oil that is with you. and applying the oil at night is a better way.
      Better to heat the oil for 30 seconds before applying.
      Longer the oil stays on skin, the better.
      But oil may harm your bed spread. If that is not a problem, then oil can surely be applied at night.

  7. Harpal says:

    Thank you very very much for answering so quickly…… I’ve also heard that gargling with sesam oil draws toxins out of the mouth. I was just wondering if should warm the oil for 30 secs in that case also?

  8. Hello sir,
    I am practicing brahmacharya from a week after 5 years. Now i feel like Masturbating (before i used to masturbate 2 to 3 times a day and was watching porn every night) and I feel like i want 2 go back 2 previous life even though i dont want to.. I feel lot of energitic, good memory and everything good in a week itself..
    But i am not able to concentrate on my Study. I feel dilemma about which life is better wen i sit to study and not able 2 study..
    whenever i sit 2 study my mind goes 2 discussion about which life is better..
    Is this thing is normal?
    Any suggestions please??

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      The dilemma that you are facing is the common thing that all of us, men face 🙂
      It is completely normal. I would recommend to stick to Brahmacharya for as long as possible. But if you happen to break it in between and give in to desire to masturbate also, there is nothing to lose. Just forget it and move on. It is not a competition with somebody else. It is a competition with yourself.
      But whatever you do, you should not feel guilty about it. Just deal it as a normal thing and move on.
      Wish you good health and a bright future.

  9. Sir,
    Does Brahmacharya helps in improving looks?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      First up, “improving looks” – if it means to look more attractive to females, you are out of Brahmacharya range.
      Brahmacharya will make you more confident, helps you face any given situation with fearless aggression and smile.

  10. Hi,

    I only recently discovered Brahmacharya and I must state that it makes perfect sense to me.

    As I sit-back, watch and document the activities of the human race, I cannot but wonder: how dumb do people have to get before they wake-up and smell what the Rock is cooking?

    It is clear to me that the most powerful of minds throughout history (especially within Ancient India), were well ahead of their time, in terms of applying pscho-physiological techniques to advance both their minds and bodies in the quest for godhood and ultimate supremacy.

    As someone who is 30 years of age and has never (ever) had any intimate contact with any living organism let alone a human, I can state with conviction that I am destined for greatness on this Earth.

    My goal: Biological Supremacy. I have a date with godhood and of becoming the greatest of creations and there is absolutely nothing that can stand in my way. My sovereignty (virginity) is sacred and the energy that I conserve and channel from it will propel me to becoming a Living God!

    The human race is an experiment that has gone out of control, threatening Mother Earth. But She will not allow Herself to be misused by humanity, for one day, She will destroy it.

    Mr. Z. Ashraf

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Dear Mr Ashraf,
      Nice meeting you here and all the best for your firm decision and venture.

    • francis says:

      well, and agreed to your thoughts on the human race and may good things come to past on your goal .
      What intrigues me is with a name such as that, you’ve explored the Brahmi school of thought…
      Thats… wow…
      welcome to the party…

  11. Neeraj says:

    Sir , I have read your post on abstinence and it makes me a lot of sense. Unfortunately, I never got an advice on masturbation when I was 13. Sometimes in School I was told by teachers that doing it in control actually helps us to do better in studies. I am 20 now and never made any sincere effort to stop ejaculating. So I have been masturbating since 13, 5 times a week on an average.. Sometimes 3 per day. I wanted to ask that have I done an irreparable damage to my mental health ? If I practice abstinence now how much time it would take to become fully healthy. Will I ever be able to reach a state like someone who has been practicing abstinence from 13. Should I consider myself unlucky in not having received the right guidance..
    Thanks !

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      If I was put onto cricket training at the age of 5, then I would have trained hard and by this time, I could have become greater than Sachin Tendulkar. There will always be lot of ‘ifs’ in our lives. Let us not worry about them. Let us start building from where we stand.
      Do not worry about getting mental strengths by comparing yourselves to others. I believe, if you start following abstinence, as per your strength and capability, you will have your share of mental and physical benefits. Stop worrying about the past and start building your present and future from TODAY!

      • Neeraj says:

        Yes Sir ! completely agreed to your wisdom punch “Stop worrying about the past”. But I was only concerned with where I stand in comparison to those who have been practicing abstinence from longer times and I have got my answer.

        But I still not fully convinced with Brahmacharya concept. Sachin Tendulkar has played incredibly well even after marrying Anjali. A newly married pair would have multiple orgasms often exceeding 5 times a week. That means there should have been noticeable decline in Sachin’s performance or any other athlete for that matter. Even Dhoni is married and performance is good. So there I had a doubt.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          There are many contributing factors to concentration and abstinence is one among them. The other factors are –
          1. Self confidence: The confidence that I can bat well, can face any bowler in the world, will make me a better batsman.
          2. Dedication: Tendulkar once went to school level match to another place along with his team mates. They all, along with his coach stayed in the hotel. At night, 3 am, some big noise was coming from the roof. Coach goes upstairs and sees that Tendulkar is practicing sweep shot by throwing the ball to the wall and playing the sweep shot. Sunil Joshi, a long time Ranji Player used to travel 70 km every day in the morning just to reach the cricket ground.
          3. Passion – Steve Jobs tells – if you are not in love with what you do, you can never succeed.
          4. Genetic, family, hereditary factors, influencing skills and mind set.
          5. Fearlessness and determination to chase your dream. – Tendulkar himself and his parents would have feared that if he continues with cricket, what will happen, or what if he gets injured while playing fast bowlers, then he would not have become a champion.

          Abstinence is one of the factors to improve concentration. It also helps to improve confidence and dedication also.
          Long story short, let us not compare with others. You following abstinence to your capacity will be a better person than you, not following it.
          Abstinence to your capacity means – as far as you can. and when you break it and masturbate, do not feel guilty about it. Just be cool about it and move on, try again.

        • I completely disagree with your comments regarding the cricketing performances of both Tendulkar and Dhoni.

          The fact of the matter is that through their partnerships with their wives (and subsequent copulative acts), both of these misguided men have decided to “share their bodies” and therefore (like most men on Planet Earth), suffer from low self-esteem and decreased biological power.

          If you think both of these men are superb cricketers now (whilst paired with partners), just think how good both of these guys would be without them.

          I would like to take this opportunity to remind those who doubt the Path of Brahmacharya, about the following words associated with human pair bonds: weakness, humiliation, disgraceful, submissive, cowardice, no self-respect.

          The fact of the matter is that Nature “forces” both men and women to submit to another organism and forego their sovereignty forever – for any act of intimacy = a permanent stain upon the Temple that is the Individual Human Body, transforming the Sacred into the Untouchable. And for what…to breed new life upon this Planet and continue the Cycle of Pain and Suffering.

          The whole point of Individual Human Existence is to Discover Oneself – NOT to forgo one’s Identity for the benefit of the greater good (humanity).

          The vast majority of humanity is living the Nightmare that a certain Mr. (Neo) Andersen was living, whilst bound and chained to the false reality of The Matrix.

  12. Harpal Singh says:

    Hello Dr. and everyone else
    I just want to share a good experience. A year ago I would masturbate almost everyweek. I slowly learned about brahmacharya and the benefits. And then I just decided to try to follow it. I tried to disciplin myself and i could go a month without masturbation. In january i went on an exchange semester to another country and have been living in my own apartment. I am here until june and i can proudly say that I have only masturbated a few times in total in the first 2 – 3 months. And since then I havent masturbated even once and i dont feel any urge anymore 🙂 By the way I have not ejaculated since january, which i am very proud of. Its very though in the beginning, the lust becomes like a wild beast which is important to control. Something that has helped a lot is to keep myself busy somehow and try to have a routine, early sleep and early rising, exercise etc. I try to take it as a challenge to control mye feelings and lust even when a very beatiful lady comes in front of me. I dont feel the desperate need for a girlfriend neither, something I used to do before. I am learning to be happy with myself and love God. I have started to do some mantra meditation, for peace of mind and to experience God. I still have a very very very long way to go and yet to explore the benefits of bhramacharya. I know a lot of people dont recognice celibacy as something great, and I respect that, everyone has their own opinion and I am not enough knowledged in this area. I am just trying to find and exerience the benefits of brahmacharya. But I can surely tell you that the feeling of being able to control myself is great and I feel like I am building up my character. Please forgive me if I have written anything wrong.


  13. @harpal singh ,You clear mind and purity of thoughts, your humble ness tells itself the effects of celebacy.may God bless us all.

  14. Harpal Singh says:

    Thank you very much Anand bhai, may God bless us all 🙂

  15. Neeraj says:

    Yes indeed ! Abstinence does works well. I realised its benefits after a bit of control. I think its ok to have as much sex as one wants after the age of 25 when one is bound to marry. Even the doctor told me, this age is not the right age for ejaculation.

  16. hello sir,

    right now, i’m 33 yrs old. i started masturbating at the age of 13. in the past few years i started educating myself with Ayurveda and general health care.

    i understood the following things, correct me if I’m wrong.

    during the puberty of a men (age 12 – 18), it is very important hold the semen (not to release it manually and no issues about the natural release) to let the penile muscle development and go up-to the natural size.

    if a person releases it manually and does it frequently during the period that he was about to attain puberty, then the penile size doesn’t attain natural size and remains smaller in size.according to modern science, penile muscle is developed as the result of the testosterone production.

    can you please share the Ayurveda perception on this topic and is it possible to improve the penile size even after crossing puberty.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no truth or recorded evidence in saying that masturbation in teenage will harm the growth of genitals.

  17. Followes of Celibacy – Here is a good book to read


    Paragraph from book:
    There are two things in this world that one should not
    waste. One is money and the other is semen. All the money in
    this world is going down the drain. It should not be used for
    oneself. Money should not be misused and one should practice
    brahmacharya as much as possible.

  18. sashidharan says:

    I have a question to ask u sir….if i follow bramacharya upto 26yrs and then if i get married…the powers like concentration,memroy,self esteem etc will be destroyed ah????

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      See, if that was true, then all men who are married should have zero level of concentration, memory and self esteem. Till the time you are unmarried, follow Brahmacharya up to your strength. After marriage also, sexual life is common. But do not be too much greedy, have certain amount of control over desires and lead a healthy life. That way, you can still have good memory, concentration and memory.

      • sashidharan says:

        thank u sir…so love and marriage life will not destroy my mind power….if i have contol over my desires ah sir?????

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Of course not!
          But when you say, ‘love’, if it is before marriage love, then there is a chance of breaking of Brahmacharya rules, even if the partners are not having physical relationship.

  19. sashidharan says:

    🙂 great words sir…thanks for ur info

  20. novice says:

    sir since the age of 13 i have been masturbating and it had made me depressed,lonely,silent,anxious,less confident ,lazy,horny and reluctant to do any work,help others,speak freely with girls…also am too bored and not enjoying anything in life…i hv made lot of promises not to masturbate ,but didn’t follow…became too guilty…now for the past 1 month i didn’t masturbate,so felt little strong and confident without laziness and boredom…
    after exactly a months time,today i masturbated again…is there a way i can quit it for a year and will i be able to satisfy my wife and give her a baby (if i marry after a year’s absistence)
    please advise.Thanks in advance…

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      First you please remove guilt from masturbation.
      Let me lay out a few rules for you.
      1. Masturbation is a healthy habit, if done once in 15 – 30 days.
      2. There is no magic formula to quit masturbation for life.
      3. Following Brahmacharya is a process. We falter, again we fight back, try and try again, fall, get up and walk again. It is a process and not a state.
      4. Masturbation does not make you impotent. You will surely have a normal sexual life. I assure you. Do not worry. Just concentrate on your studies / work. Nothing to worry even if you masturbate once a while

      • novice says:

        hey thanks for such a good reply and congrats for your dedicated work in bringing up better youth to India…..
        I have read,listened lot of talks on masturbation and every siddha doctor says masturbation depletes your live sperm cells(oligospermia) premature ejaulation,less sperm count,less mobile sperm,
        and it will make impotent.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          You can believe those Siddha doctors or you can believe me. Choice is up to you to make.
          Swami Vivekananda said – “Each soul is potentially Divine.” That applies to you as well!. You are Divine and you are good. Believe that first.
          Whether you wish to spend your life like a moron, always worrying about this little thing called masturbation, or you spend your life like a lion, concentrating hard on your life goals, studies, career, trying to help your family members, parents, poor – is your choice to make.
          Just consider masturbation as an inevitable part of your growth. Consider it as normal process like urination or defecation. Do not overdo it. If you feel like it, do it once in 15 – 30 days, and march towards your goals with confidence, courage.
          BE FEARLESS !!!

          • sashidharan says:

            sir if bramacharya is a healthy process…then y sir swami vivekanandha died at his young age???? :/

            • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

              Have you read his works? Have you understood and incorporated any of His sayings in your life?
              I suggest you to read ‘Talks with Swamy Vivekananda’ – A small book on him for only 60 rupees.
              Just read it and you will get the answer for your question.

          • Sir ,u changed the path of my life.Around 125 days back i posted in this wall for your advise to quit masturbation.U gave me confidence and courage .from then on i started performing well in office,became more healthier,energetic,strong….was happy and positive all throughout these days…read lot about bramacharya and tried following it….life was just with peace and happiness.All my previous guilt,regrets and hard memories started to perish…i became a new man.I was marching for 150(150th anniversary of swami vivekanada)days without masturbation.But today i relapsed ,masturbated watching porn…..Am not going to put myself down.Again I will start my 150 days bramacharya starting from tomorrow Apr 7th.Will post my success story on my 150th day.please give me courage and confidence to achieve it.Thanks!!!

  21. sashidharan says:

    k sir…sex is a healthy process or not???

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes, if it is done with pure love, after marriage, with a controlled frequency.

      • sashidharan says:

        if i followed bramacharya and attain control over my mind…then if i got married, again my mind would be filled with lust and sex. sir?

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          After marriage, do not fill your mind with lust and sex.
          In stead, fill your mind with love towards your beloved. Sex will remain only as extension of that love. Then you will be on the right path.
          Consider your wife as the most valued person of your live, with whom you will be sharing the rest part of your life. Do not limit your imagination of your wife as just a slave for your desires.

  22. Hello Sir. Is it true that Hirda (Chebulic Myrobalan) is helpful in practise of Brahmacharya? If yes, how it helps? And can you please tell me where can I get it and what should I ask for?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes, it helps in Brahmacharya. The mode of action is quite difficult to explain. It keeps the sexual hormones under check.
      Having said that, it is not good to use Hirda for more than 2 – 3 months continuously.
      It has mild laxative action.
      You can get it in the market in the name of ‘Haritaki Churna’.
      Better to consult a doctor for the right dose and method of taking.

      • Thank you for your kind reply sir. Does that mean that extended use of Hirda can render one impotent? In case if I want to lead totally pure life, still it is not good for me? Will it affect production of semen int he body as well? I am asking this because semen is converted to Ojas and if production of semen itself is affected the purpose of Brahmacharya might be defeated. Please excuse me for my straight forward question but I couldnt find any other source for finding answers to my question.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          I like straight forward people and questions.
          There are no proof that extended use of Haritaki causes impotent. But it is astringent herb. It takes away moisture from the body. Hence it is not indicated for a long time usage.
          I do not recommend Haritaki as the medicine to maintain Brahmacharya.
          Probably there is no medicine for ‘Brahmacharya’
          However, restraint from Tea, Coffee, Non veg, Garlic, Onion etc help in concentration.

          • Sir, thank you for giving me your valuable time and advice. This website is really very helpful for today’s youth and one of the incomparable ways of serving the society. I have also downloaded the book and will go through it. Thank you once again. Regards.

  23. Veronica says:

    Dr. this is from a woman (I’m one of your patients.) I practice alot of yoga and find that I have a tremendous amount of energy and have physically abstained from sex for years (not by choice.) Yet i respectfully submit that as a result the mind is constantly or quite often fantasizing about sex. And as a result there is a sense of built up tension in the body/mind.
    So my question is for a householder-in Western world wouldn’t it be healthier to have sex with a loving, single partner, than to abstain totally? As other teachers say abstaining can cause other problems, since the energy is not circulating. In fact I have reproductive problems and my Chinese herbalist calls it “stagnation.”

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, thanks for a very good question.
      1. Complete mental and physical abstinence is for Sanyasins and for those who seek eternal bliss and who have chosen to live sacred. That is a very hard path to follow. Not all of us can chose to be so.
      2. It is natural for all of us to get sexual thoughts. Procreation by means of recreation is the rule of nature. We are all bound by it. But between these two extremes – complete abstinence and having a sexually active life, in this scale of two ends, we have to chose a place where we belong.
      Sex can be had by anyone, with anyone, within ‘legal and ethical boundaries’. Though ethical boundary is a subjective issue, there are some guidelines which can be generalized. They are –
      Sex with love and a relationship with healthy long perspective is better than lustful solitary outbursts.
      Efforts to develop a love-full relationship (and having sex) is far better than suffering with under confidence because of the arising sexual desires and suffering due to it.
      Extra marital relationship, using sex as a tool to achieve a vendetta or to get something is strict no no.

      Speaking about “stagnation” – If one is having completely good control over mind, then it is absolutely fine to follow complete Brahmacharya in its purest form.
      But if someone is not mentally inclined for absolute Brahmacharya, and is getting sexual thought, then it might cause ‘stagnation’.

      Hope I make some sense?

  24. One question.
    Is there any side effects of not having sex at all ?
    If no,what will happen with semen then?because it’s being produced all the time.

    Actually i have good control(still practicing yoga a lot) & assure that i can live without sex all the life,but once my friend told me that its very dangerous to health.Is it really danger?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no problem if someone does not have any sex.
      In such a person, semen usually flows out at night or along with urine.
      I do not think it is dangerous. Congratulations. 🙂

  25. Reshma says:

    I agree with it. But for a married individual how it be brahmacharya.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Following restraint in festivals, during periods, full moon and no moon days, during pregnancy.
      Putting love ahead of lust. are some form of Brahmacharya to be followed.
      Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa Ji told that after a few kids are born, the couple should live together like brother and sister. Though it may not be possible for many, some restraint and some Brahmacharya is always good to follow

  26. Brahmacharya certainly does improve concentration, memory and several other things. I speak from experience. My health improved a lot after I started observing the practice. However, to reap the full benefits of sexual abstinence you have to be mentally chaste as well; only then will the body cooperate. Good luck to all who choose to follow this great path.

  27. Piyush says:

    Sir,I am practicing brahamcharya but there is night fall weekly what should I do?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Night fall once in a week is normal. Nothing to worry. Continue with Brahmacharya efforts.

  28. sourabh says:

    sir “talks with swami vivekananda” book is avialble in english ..
    can u pls his book in hindi language. i tried but not found any book with this name.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, sorry that I do not know about its Hindi Version. But its English version is very easy to read and understand. For Hindi Version, please contact local Ramakrishna Math.

  29. Hi.

    I guess controlling the mind is toughest thing if one is not involved in practice of Brahmacharya. On the contrary, it becomes easiest if one is determined and self controlled.

    I started practicing brahmacharya and its effects are just as you mentioned in your article…

    Hard thing is.. continued practice of brahmacharya without interruptions and deviations… Will some mantra be of any help ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Mantra or such other spiritual practice definitely helps. But for that, you will need to have a Spiritual Guru for guidance.

  30. if brahmcharya is total retention of semen then why nightfall occurs,if they occur how can it be converted into ojas in our mind sometimes i feel swami vivekand also experienced nightfall .

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Brahmacharya is not about total retention of semen. It is about mental control and perfectly pure and ethical mental and physical behavior. Night fall can happen to a person following Brahmacharya, because of physiological reasons (any normal person would produce sperm and semen, which needs evacuation).
      But there are super-natural Tantric techniques to stop sperm / semen production, which Swamy Vivekananda was following.
      This guess is based on a Tantric practice, which Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa followed successfully. In the ultimate stage of that practice, one has to sit on the lap of a naked woman but with singular mind on God, which Sri Paramahamsa Ji successfully passed.

  31. S.P.RAJA says:


    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, sexual urge continues to exist even after vasectomy. Hence, rather than worrying about retention of semen, night fall (which does not break Brahmacharya anyways), concentrate more on ‘purity of mind’. If the mind is pure and one with the divine, whether the semen is produced or not, does not matter.

  32. Krishna says:

    Sir, is there any treatment for homosexual problems in ayurveda?(sorry for irrelevant post in this topic)

  33. chinmaya says:

    1)What is life span of a sperm?
    2) If its not wasted during night fall/ sexual activities, where it will go after its life?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      1. The life span of sperm after ejaculation depends on the circumstances. Sperm ejaculated during intercourse without protection, can live in a woman’s cervical mucus or upper genital tract for three to five days.

      2 It eventually goes out in the form of night fall.

  34. Dear Doctor
    Great article…
    I read complete article along with all Q & A
    Please re-circulate such useful articles to your all existing and new subscribers.
    God will be always with you for your great work for human being.

    Thanks again

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, thanks for your feedback. I try my best to circulate all my articles to the new subscribers. I have also included these in my ebooks and emagazines.

  35. Hi Sir! First of all great website with a lot of information on ayurveda! Well done!
    As I understand, one needs to be pure in thoughts, but will that help turn sperm into energy or ojas? Or are there other ways to convert the sperm? Also when you see a beautiful woman, how is a brahmachari ideally meant to handle that situation? One shouldn’t suppress as I understand, but how do you control the feelings?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Purity in thought helps to improve Ojas in the body, as it avoids losing mental energy in the form of mental mischief.
      There are many methods to hold mental purity when you see a beautiful woman. A Bhakti yogi (who has totally surrendered to his Diety), would praise the Lord for creating such a beautiful creature. By praising the Lord, he has converted attention towards that lady to pure divine love towards God. (Source: Divinepark.org)
      A Jnana Yogi (Knowledge based spiritual practitioner) would not recognize the beauty of the lady at all. He would simply consider the body as meager as mud.
      (This is what I have read and understood, I personally try to practice these methods. But sometimes I fail.)

      • vijay gt says:

        Dear sir… I practiced brahmacharya for six months. I felt like i was walking with god.
        Later the bad habits started creeping in, like watching porn…I felt guilty. I did not stop there. I took a oath infront of god that I will treat all the women in world as my mother, sister and daughter.thiss resolution has given me intense strength.

        But still sometimes failed….my mind tempted me to watch porn….
        Now I have taken up new resolution that , all the women are goddess Lakshmi… And if I look at any women, even in movies with bad thoughts…my father Narasimha (goddess Lakshmi’s husband) is going to kill me.
        This resolution I am going to have for rest of life.

        Sir… Am I moving in the right path ?
        In this kaliyuga…. Its very difficult to get a guru who can show the correct path like Raghavenda swamy in 16th century.

        Please comment…

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Dear Vijay,
          First up, please make up your mind – what you actually want to become. If you want to be a family man, once in a while masturbation / porn watching is just fine.
          If you want to be a monk, then common layman’s routine will not help you. I suggest you to join Sri Ramakrishna Ashram.
          I suggest you not to take such oaths / promises in front of God, that you cannot hold.

          • Dear Vijay,
            Anchor your mind here – “I am in a celebacy mood”. Avoid fight with your self. The opposite memories triggered will die on its own, when you do not pay attention to it. By Vowing act, many times we are actually strengthening what we do not want


  36. gino garcia says:

    hi there

    i believe there is 4 stages in life .Brahmacharya is the first one .i am 48 years old .i have done everything .drugs -party-sleep around .i have start practicing abstinence and feel very sharp mind and body . Do i am on the stage that i can give away sex forever? how would i benefit from abstinence ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no barrier for entry to Brahmacharya. You can start it at any point of your life. You will have more energy, courage, better concentration, and an agile mind because of it.

  37. Hi doctor,

    First I would like to thank for this wonderful article.

    I agree the benefits of abstinence you have listed here,As i experienced most of it.
    But some doubts please clarify.

    1.Is abstinence good for prostate health?.Since most internet resources suggest regular ejaculation for prostate health.
    2.Is abstinence cause anxiety problems(worry)?
    3.If abstinence continue for a long period(above 6 months or years),will it cause impotence or erection problems?
    4.Is there any relation between hairloss and (abstinence or masturbation).


    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      1. Even a person following strict abstinence might have night fall, and thereby losing excessively stored sperm / semen. Absitence is more related to brain , mind and heart, than the reproductive system.
      2. No. In fact, it increases confidence.
      4. No.
      4. No.

  38. channa says:

    Hello sir

    I started at the age of 14. And i was shy to ask any one that how many time ‘s a healthy man should leave sperms in a week and so on. now am 21 and now am Mastrubuting twice a week with exact intervals. Is that good that i stop mastributing now and i know i can control it because when ever i was Mastrubuting i used to think that if i dont Mastrubute twice a week it will affect the healthy life. So i can quit doing it, please suggest me will it affect my health if i stop mastributing as i read in google that a healthy person should do Mastrubation twice a week. Please suggest me i am confused from many years not months nor days.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, I would say masturbation once in a week or in 15 days is good enough. If you can control it, you can delay its frequency. There is no rule that twice a week masturbation is the norm.

      • channa says:

        Hello sir am back again it’s been almost to months I dint do masturbation and I dint get nightfall to. Is that normal. Am following what ever you suggesting.

  39. Hello sir, I have some questions for you regarding my current situation and what to do.

    I am an 20 yr old male who has been having a very hard time lately.

    I began daily masturbation at about age 10 and sometimes will do it up to 4 times per day. At about age 14 I started having concentration problems, memory issues, and low confidence. At 16 I became depressed with anxiety, and this still continues to this day.

    Could masturbation been the thing hat has been hindering me from being a happy functioning person?

    Would celibacy for a few months restore some of the lost vitality?

    I’ve been reading a lot on the subject, and it seems that many cultures believe that semen invigorates the body is this true? Because modern medical people seem to think that it is perfectly ok to indulge in sex and masterbation as much as you want.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      The guilt feeling associated with masturbation causes person to lose confidence and to have memory issues etc.
      Celibacy or at least limiting masturbation to once in a week or 15 days can be a great way to improvise mental and physical health..
      All the best for that.

      • Hello Sir. I am sorry to contradict your fine advice, but I read about Bramacharya from articles written by Swami Sivananda. He said, unequivocally, that masturbation causes depression, enervation, and memory loss, to name only a few of it’s negative affects. I think you are misleading the questioner to say that it is only the guilt feeling associated with it that is causing problems. That is not a correct teaching according to Sivananda. A sense of guilty can actually come from the higher conscience that knows masturbation is harmful and a terrible waste of divine energy. Sorry, but I felt compelled to offer this information.

  40. Geeven says:

    Hello Doctor,

    I would like to know if the voluntary removal of semen each 4 days during a hindu fasting period is acceptable considering that a normal human being has little control on his body and natural mechanism.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      If someone has very little control over his urges, then no problem.
      But, if someone wants to follow a spiritual path, I do not approve of such a practice. If you are a spiritual seeker, it is advisable to hold back the urge as long as you can and do not set yourself a goal of evacuating the semen once in fixed number of days.

  41. Abhijit says:

    sir, great article.
    I just want to explain my problem. i have a lot of anger in me. i too have a touchy nature. when people starts commenting negatively, i take it personally and then i cant concentrate properly in my studies. i know the fact that it is a natural law that people comment on each other negatively and one should just avoid and go ahead. but i am not able to change my attitude. please give me some tips so that i dont face any problem further.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Just stay away from negative people and become friends with only those who boost your confidence.

  42. hello sir,
    i am 20 yrs old ,i read ur article and i know the value of abstinence but sir the tragic part is i tried to control my attraction to a limit but now few months before i met someone to whom i was strongly attracted and could not control myself in hiding my emotions which has now resulted in being in relationship but at a mental platform only and by not engrossing physically , i used to refrain from these subjects but now i feel restless towards it and cant stop myself being in contact with him, and we both are serious to it and will definately marry in the future , but sir i feel myself at fault and most of time keep on worrying on this subject that i have lost my abstinence which i dont want to , plss sir show me the path and how i can continue relationship without involving much and maintaining celibacy too at the same time till the time i get married, pls sir i need help

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, loving someone is not against to the rules of abstinence, as long as physical relationship is not involved. But if it is done without the permission and blessings of elders, and there are a lot of cultural differences, then there will be problems on ethical and social problems. Get the permission from your parents and marry that guy soon. Wish you all the success. 🙂

  43. hello sir ,
    till which age abstinence should be followed

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Depends on goals and ambitions. If someone wants to take monk-hood, she needs to follow it for life.
      If someone wants to have an ethical marital life, she can follow only till marriage.

  44. dimple c says:

    Sir i read your all coments and start to follow bhramcharya but suddenly i thought of doing masturbation plz help me. Is masturbation once in a week is bd i am at present 15 years old

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, do not start feeling guilty about masturbation. Once in 10 – 15 days is fine.

  45. Sanchit says:

    I am following abstinence since one year but I see no benifits mentally.
    a worse situation is that I get frequent headache .. Is it because I am doing pranayam which I going wrong . As I guess my spinal posture is mot correct. Is this the reason of my case ..what should I do sir..

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, I suggest consult a Yoga specialist to get your posture and Pranayama correct.

  46. SridharAV says:


    This is an excellent article with inspiring questions and answers about Brahmacharya.

    Some points that might be helpful to aspirants are:

    The rules of Brahmacharya for both men & women are same. By observing Brahmacharya, we cultivate the company of God inside and outside. As time passes, with steady practise, the Prana whose gross expression is sexual fluid (retas) will start to transmute itself to Ojas. Thus there is no production of semen (retas) but rather the Prana is transmuted . Once semen is passed is formed, either it has to come out voluntarily through intercourse, masturbation or through nightfall. In women, the loss of retas is experienced during sexual dreams or orgasm while awake. Thus physical abstinence is only temporary without strong spiritual background.

    After a person is established in Brahmacharya, the Yogic scriptures say that the nerves responsible for outlet of semen get so thinned that the Brahmachari will not enjoy the sexual act and will recoil in pain during sexual act when they advance in spirituality after years of unbroken Brahmacharya. At this time, the Brahmacharni will have cessation in monthly periods. There are spiritual women giants who did not have such monthly periods recorded in the spiritual books

  47. Sir i always try follow celebacy ,..but as i start to follow celebacy my mind start worring on sily sily thng..i m not able to do study my subject in deep..at any cost i hav to follow celebacy.. But celebacy affect my mental state.. And whenever i masturbate i feel very relax and with more concentration i do my study..
    Sir pls show me right path..what should i do..

  48. charliee says:

    Hi sir, I m 17 and till now I use to masturbate twice a week..so if I starts brahmacharya now for my lifetime..is it possible for me to attain vigour and vitality like bhishma,parsurama,hangman or vivekananda??

  49. sourabh says:

    Namastey sir. please, can you explain symptoms when sperm is converted into ojas?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Good memory, confidence, concentration, pleasure in meditation, being truthful. Good immunity etc.

      • sourabh says:

        thank you so much for answering. sir can you explain effects of keeping hair on body. i read about that after attaining certain length they stopped and gives vitality and strength and very helpful in meditation. what ayurveda says about this? i read on this link ,https://www.3ho.org/articles/all-about-hair-yogi-style.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Ayurveda does not recommend keeping hair. It actually recommends to cut all hair once in 15 days. (reference: Ashtanga Hrudaya Sutrasthana and CHaraka Samhita Dinacharya chapter).
          I do not think hair has anything to do with concentration of mind. Of course, ancient Rishis were leaving the hair to grow as they were less focused on body or physical looks.
          Swami Vivekananda and all the Sanyasins of Ramakrishna Math shave their head.

  50. is masturbation cause hair fall or do not permit hair growth?

  51. hi sir, i am 20 years old male,
    Q1) would brachmacharya be waste if one does not perform pranayamas, meditation, japas regularly for the conversion of sexual energy into ojas which forms the finest brain?
    Q2) what are the exercises one(brachmachari) should perform in order to convert sexual energy into ojas…?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      I do not call Brahmacharya waste without Pranayama, meditation etc. However, if it is accompanied with other things, it is good. Even without meditation etc, Brahmacharya alone can be an effective tool to empower brain with special concentration and strength.

      Meditation for at least 5 minutes a day, pranayama for just 2 – 3 minutes a day, 5- 10 Surya Namaskara are three simple things that one can do.

  52. ravinarayan says:

    homosexual feelings is correct or not

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      I do not have any problem with people being homosexual. Just take sufficient care about emotions, ethics and hygiene.

  53. Selvamuthukumaran says:

    Masturbation without thinking about sex and,practising full celibacy but only masturbating for good feeling….am I breaking the rule of brahmacharya?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:


      • Vincent says:

        Maturbation is one of the worst habits. Unfortunately I have engaged in it most of my life. I sorely regret it. Read what the great Yogis, like Sri Sivananda, say about it. You must PRESERVE your seed. So much prana goes into producing it. If you would realize that, you would never masturbate again. And the worst thing is that it will guarantee that you stay on the wheel of death and rebirth. How many lives do you want to keep suffering??

  54. I am following celibacy as long as possible.I also want to ask one more important thing that will the urge to masturbate will decrease slowly if I had followed it for 1 month. Will the task become easier after I have successfully followed this thing for 1 month or my urge to masturbate will go on increasing day by day. Will this task become tougher & tougher day by day?Or After some the all thing will become stable & easy & less difficulty(or no difficulty) will come after some particular point of time while following it?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, the urge to masturbate may increase or decrease based on your mental strength. Firm determination is key here.

  55. prashant says:

    Very informative article and comments.
    I liked all of them, thanks all.
    I have one question sir.
    As i heard/learnt about brahmacharya for married is, just not thinking/involving in any
    sexual thought/act with anybody else other than own wife/husband. Like rama. Is it not true?I have seen examples of many saints/rushis and intelectuals who were married and still were saits/religious leaders.
    correct me if wrong.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      You are right.
      Brahmacharya for married couple also involves prioritizing love ahead of lust.

      The great Rishis and saints would eventually take up complete Brahmacharya, devoid of any sexual activities.

  56. Dear sir,
    I am trying to keep brahmcharya, but I am facing big problem of nightfall.
    In normal it happens to me after every seven days, and from last 5 days it is happening me daily, sometime it happens two time in night. I do kapalbhati, bhastrika, anulom-vilom, bahya-pranayam daily. I also used to medited 15-20 minute every night before sleep. then also night happen to me. and this is happening from last 6-7 years now I am about 24 years old. I have also try some Ayurvedik medicine like shatawar, safed-musali, ashwagandha, kaunch beej mixture, and shilajeet, chandraprabhawati sometime. and one more thing I do not masturbate.

    Please give me some strong recomondation how can I keep my brahmacharya. I is my life time aim. I don’t want to marry.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, if you are following Brahmacharya, then no need to take Shaavari, Safed Mushli, Kaunch etc which would enhance sperm / semen production
      Just stop them and follow your daily routines.

    • SOURABH GANDHI says:

      Sir J V Hebbar . yes it is true that if you want to follow Brahmacharya then you have to stop it t form by tantra .. about 11 to 12 monty ago when i was doing meditation kundilni activated . i think that was activated with the grace of god. then my hand goes to the private part and some mantra by lips . after that life .mechanisum of body changed completly. after taking food around 6 hours later automatically bandha occured automatically i think that was jalandher bandha.. and veerya goes to the brain. it feels something cold drops have goes to the brain . you feel so realx. when kundilini activated your body start doing yoga, bandha and aasan etc. after than night fall stops . no loose of semen. it continuous for 8 to 9 months . after taking food about 6 hours later bandha at navel (manipura chakra). and veera goes to brain .whwn we go deeper in mediatation after kavilya stage . when a person got kavilya stage after that new things comes . there is braham granthi in mooldhana chakra . which actually forces for sexually attraction and to reproduce . you can say it is the gland which produce hormones which i feel. this is a knot . with the help of meditation and pure thoughts you can open that knots . when my knot open with the grace of god . then bandhas stops at manipura (navel , nabhi). now life is that whenever veerya forms it directly goes to the brain. i warmly thanks dr jv hebbar, after reading your article on this website my life has been changed. i was firstly inspired with your article and then vivekananda who inspire me a lot. . read “RAJ YOGA ” WHO WANT TO FOLLOW Brahmacharya.



  57. Hi Sir,
    I am a female and I want to know that if food is touched by father(incase father has unchaste thoughts about daughter) and his daughter eats the hand touched food of father ,can her(her daughter) brahmcharya be broken.

  58. Dear Dr,
    Request you to please help the today’s youth and attain God’s blessings. (do not take my mail negatively. nothing to do with you / nor to criticize you by any means. This is to help youth through you. Because you have access to them by your site)

    I think you need to interview the people who are following Bramhacharya since a very long time. (minimum 6 months and more). For those kind of persons they might feel trouble in sex after marriage. Like PE, ED etc. Those problems may be because they kept their glands (responsible for sex act) that produce required hormones for sex not in use for a very long time. Also their testosterone levels might come down, because they did not make enough stimulation to keep their testosterone levels at required levels or to keep it more.

    I feel Bramahacharya is recommended completely only for the sanyasis / sanyasins/ females. In other cases students can follow it until the completion of their basic studies,. i.e., intermediate / +12. Normally in olden days by this time the youth used to get married and were able to live like lord Rama (if they wished to do so) by performing sex act with only their wives. It is a peak life time 16 to 26 years of age where the youth has a very strong instinct towards sex. And I feel this is a very important thing to know that they are very normal, healthy and not impotent if they are sexually stimulative in that age. so in this peak age if they get married, it is fine for them. so that they can involve in sex with their life partners and keep their sex health healthy. Other wise for those who’s marriage is destined late, for those if you recommend 100% bramhacharya and if they follow that 100% out of fear for God, then, are they not going to get affected after their marriage? This is a serious subject and need to be sincerely researched on a large scale.

    Bramcharya is really good but not for all other than Sanyasis / sanyasins and may be for females. For females, because they do not face problems like performance like males and need face guilty for not performing / failure in sex after marriage. Also if a female do not have control and full of over lust, then it might effect the samsara after her marriage. Because mostly families sustain because of the females and not males. so for females it might be important. For the other people (male youth) who intend to lead a family life, it is required in controlled manner and not 100%. Controlled manner because, if they do not have control on themselves they may indulge in unethical issues like rapes, extra marital relationships which are sins. so control for them is very very important and to build a proper character.

    Use it or lose it: It is important to send proper blood flow to the male organ so that it receives ample oxygen and its cells remain healthy. If proper oxygen is not supplied to the cells for a very long period of time what happens? The cells may become unhealthy. Coming to the sex problem, once the youth loses the power, it is quite difficult (what I feel, or might may take time)to make fully virile even after giving him the best of the best medicines (even with gold combinations). So I feel it is important to encourage males (not females) who intend to lead a family life to mastrubate (too keep the male organ healthy) once in a week, max not more than twice a week. Also they should be told not to fascinate by dreaming of married women, guru’s daughter, sacred women etc. They can fascinate by thinking of self created (out of imagination) beautiful women or beautiful animated beauties to keep out of the sin. The whole idea here is to keep the male organ healthy, to keep the testosterone levels up to the mark so that when there is a demand from their life partner they should not fail and feel guilty of not performing. Later after marriage, if their are wives are spiritual and have good control on sex, then these people can (after becoming father) gradually divert themselves into complete bramcharya path to attain Moksha / Liberation. Also the youth should be restricted in watching porn so as to not to corrupt their minds unnecessarily. It is a natural god given good instinct that should be followed. To much of unnecessary things or too much of knowledge is not a good thing.

    Swamy Vivekanada might had achieved many things by complete bramcharya for 12 years. But remember he also suffered from Diabetes when he died. Physical exercise is also important to keep the body healthy. I think after so many years of bramcharya, if he is married then he might face issues in sexual life for abstaining for a very long time. He might be successful with the help of God’s grace or by chanting some vedic mantras. But for a normal person it might be difficult. For a normal person if he fails he might feel a lot of guilty and may go into depression. Today Doctors (not you) are en cashing on people’s weaknesses like sex debility, baldness, Diabetis, skin diseases, beauty etc. For swamy vivekananda it is okay to follow Bramcharya has he had taken up the sanyasa route. Today if it is destined or if there is God’s grace males can become fathers. Even through PE if the semen falls near the entrance of the Vagina, the sperms inside it may travel inside and cause fertility in female. But legal (only with his wife, Dharma Kama) healthy performance is what matters for a male. It is a manliness for a male.

    Sir, please take this seriously and help the youth, which is possible by a person like you.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Dear sir, a few things to consider –
      1. For the youth, who have no intent to become Sanyasins, it is good if they control their sense organs and follow brahmacharya “as much and as long as they can” Their Brahmacharya might get broken in between due to distractions etc, but there should be an attempt to follow it to their strength.
      During pre-marriage life, I have followed Brahmacharya for six months continuously and can assure you that no such sexual problems such as PE, etc occur post marriage.
      In fact, those who have better control over their mind, can enjoy sexual act better, after marriage. Another point is, having a better control over mind helps the person to be 100 % loyal to his / her spouse.

      As sex is just a part of life, having good control over mind helps the person to achieve greater things in work life and meditation life as well.

      Swami Vivekananda used to exercise.
      The problem with his health was, (best guess), he was not attentive towards his health at all. Let me share a real story about the great master:
      Once residing in a disciple’s home in USA, Swamiji was looking at the mirror again and again. By this, the disciple got really confused. How can a Sanyasi be so attracted towards his own body that he looks at the mirror repeatedly.

      After a while, Swamiji called the disciple and said – “no matter how many times I look into the mirror, due to dispassion, I cannot exactly remember my physique!”

  59. PAWAN KUMAR says:

    nice article Sir

  60. how about is a person starts brahmacharya from the age of 27 ,if he had not done earlier ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Brahmacharya can be started by anyone at anytime. Irrespective of one’s past.
      One may argue that, it will not be purest form of Brahmacharya. But who cares? You have got to know about it now, and want to follow it now. Just start now. It is never late to start on the path of sacredness.

  61. Shridhar says:

    Hi Sir acquiring Abstinence from masturbation means suppressing the Sexual Energy ?
    Because I have read an article somewhere, we need to sublimate that sexual energy to positive action.
    Thank You

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, there is no concept of acquiring abstinence (or maintaining Brahmacharya) with masturbation. Masturbation is not a means of suppression of sexual energy.

  62. Krishna says:

    Masturbation is a natural phenomenon that happens following puberty, but after this a man or woman should lead a celebate life for the attainment of God and unity with the Supreme Being. It is unnatural for men and women to make a habit out of masturbation and sex to feed the demons of lust and desire contrary to what anyone says; whether they are a medical doctor or otherwise. The mind must become purified to dwell on God at all times and therefore absolute continence is necessary as well as the renouncement of lust in all forms, which I have already expounded upon as a gate to hell in the Bhagavad-Gita.

  63. Shantaya says:

    I had practiced celibacy for 6 months total at one point before getting married and I found that the benefits were absolutely amazing. I felt very happy pretty much every day and after I would say 3 month especially, something happened and my life seemed to be full of joy and love. I had a very sharp memory and concentration and the amount of inspiration that I had was incredible. It was like having huge ideas come to me every second without thinking. You will also notice your speech improve and it becomes more elegant, the skin improves, and you become more magnetic too. You will be able to walk into a room full of people and everyone will look at you even if you are wearing not very assuming clothes because you will have a power about you. ( I got my kundalini awakened a few years ago in a group called Sahaja yoga meditation.) It was very fast and after sometime I began practicing celibacy and this is when I started to experience some incredible things. I would recommend all those who practice celibacy to get their kundalini’s awakened and try Sahaja Yoga meditation and I promise you will see what I mean very fast. Just like any experiment, I would say try Sahaja Yoga along with celibacy for at least some time so you can really feel what those great saints where talking about in the past. Also it is of course not a sin to get married ,but I have seen that it does take away spiritual energy especially engaging in sex. I plan on taking it up again because there are just too many great things about it to keep denying myself absolute celibacy. The most important thing out of the numerous gifts it gives you is that it gave me complete joy and detachment from any negative thing in life that came up. You just are above worldly things. Nothing disturbs you and you even enjoy the so called negative things that happen. Trust me when I say it is truly worth it.

    Wishing everyone who wishes to undertake celibacy and purity to continue on
    their journey with the seal of a warrior and to keep it up no matter what .

    All my love,

  64. SOURABH GANDHI says:

    sir i also wanna share thats happening . . few times ago there was a vibration of veerya whch i was able to hear. now its gone .its changes with prana. i think now no sperms forms it automatically converted into prana. i m feeling so much energetic. memory increased . no need to think. confidence increased.

  65. Dear sir ,
    I want to know , I have heard about silajit a lot, is it realy beneficial for health ,(the solid form of shilajit hand picked) iam following brahmcharya from last 6 months.

    i have a doubt that shilajit may causes health problms.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      If used in a dose of just 500 mg per day for 4 – 6 weeks, it does not cause any problem in a healthy individual.

  66. Good day doctor, I am reading some information on brahmacharya whereby some swami’s say that if a man is unable to practice seminal conservation & the semen is wasted, the vital force is lost for life & can never be regained till you die. Is there any truth in this ?

    I am a 35 year old male who masturbates 6 times a week for past 21 years. How much would seminal conservation help me now ? Will the vital force I gain in future be minuscule in comparison to a 35 year old brahman who has not masturbated/ wasted his semen all his life ?

    Thanks to help.


    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Good day sir.
      The vital force is lost, yes. But only those seeking higher spiritual levels need such a high vital force. For common people, it is not all that important to lead a happy and successful life.

      In your case, I would say, 6 times a week is slightly high. Please try to reduce it to once a week – short term goal. once in 15 days – long term goal.
      Following some sort of sexual restriction is very healthy and beneficial for all of us, irrespective of age and sex.
      Do not compare yourself with anyone else. If I compare my running speeds with Usain bolt, I am not even half of his speed. But that should not discourage me from running. You are unique and your useful to the society like no one other. Cheers!

      • Hello Dr, happy to say that I have gone 5 full weeks without masturbation. I feel so much more healthier, energetic, able to think clearly with no brain fog, no pain in my back bone, more confident to approach women, less anxious, more confident, self esteem….should i go on?? I cant believe that this has had such a tremendous impact on my life. It also makes me sad when I ask myself – why I didn’t discover this earlier & how much of my life I have lost because of of masturbation/sex addiction. But, too late to regret now. I appreciate your informative website & the many articles you have written on this blog which I find extremely useful. May God bless you & fulfill all your dreams.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Hi, please continue without masturbation for as long as you can. You may fail sometime. But just be honest in your efforts. Do not curse yourself for the failures. Do not develop guilty consciousness.
          Be proud of your results. Cheers! May God bless you too!

  67. Samraat says:

    Hello sir.
    I am a male of 25 years, practicing celibatism from past 3 years.
    Can you tell us what should we do to follow strict celibacy and not to have erotic dreams even?
    As for myself,
    I practice meditation,devout my time for religious scriptures, don’t allow my mi d to wander in wrong directions in waking state
    Stopped watching tv, eat simple food without any spices except for rock salt

    and still getting those wet dreams12-15 per year.
    Any suggestion for extending our determination and control to dream state too?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, having betel nut powder – 2 grams at night, having a pinch of Sandalwood powder with water, in the morning after food, chewing a Tulsi leaf or 2 per day are few good remedies to control sexual urge or to delay wet dreams.

  68. Grate post

  69. Dear Sir,

    Guilt is tearing me apart.

    When I was 17, I read a crime story in a national magazine wherein an officer forces a young woman into sexual activity and he continues to do that whenever he wishes to. I masturbated visualising this thereafter for 5 years. I knew it was imaginary, I knew I’d done it to relieve my self off quickly though somewhere my conscience was pricking telling its wrong.

    Now, my conscience is lashing out at me asking why did I do that. None of my defense – I kept my vow and never watched porn, have high respect for women, good nature etc is working. The thought that I, whenever masturbated, took control of that less powerful woman is killing me.

    Over that, the feeling that I have done some injustice to my future wife(whoever) by imagining some unknown woman sexually, and hence lost some of my purity, is squeezing me from inside.

    I need your unbiased perspective on this.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Dear Mr Arjun, I totally understand your position. You have not done anything wrong.
      Getting sexual feeling is very natural from 16 – 17 years onward and there is no fault in imagining that incident. It is all but natural.
      You are not doing any injustice to your future wife. If you did not had any sexual feeling at all, and if you marry a girl, that would be injustice to the girl because sexual thoughts and sex is part of marital life.

      I suggest you to donate some money to woman’s welfare fund or an NGO helping oppressed women or an organization taking care of disabled women.
      While doing that, train your mind that this good deed is cleansing out the old thoughts.
      After you do that, set yourself free.

      You are a very good human being, Arjun. Do not feel any guilt about masturbation. It is healthy if not indulged excessively. It only indicates that the reproduction system is working good.
      All the best! 🙂

      • My heartfelt thanks doctor. I’m afraid I can’t do service in expectation of something as that couldn’t be called service then. Moreover, if I attach it to the service, it means I’m convinced that I’m guilty of what I did.

        But, its more of confusion and inability to answer my conscience. I need reasoning/ rational explanation to the constant debate in my heart. I must get out of this to be fully able to concentrate on my tasks. Its somehow interfering,

        1) Is it lapse in morality?
        2) Did I repeatedly do it simply because I subconsciously knew its non-indictable or its okay to do that?
        3) Did I lose my purity by doing that? If not, why do I feel the huge discomfort when I imagine confessing this to my future wife?

        PS: I just wanted to convey thanks and not bother you further, but couldn’t resist asking.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          1) Is it lapse in morality?
          It is not lapse of morality as it has not hurt anyone, physically or mentally.

          2) Did I repeatedly do it simply because I subconsciously knew its non-indictable or its okay to do that?
          Our mind sometimes takes its own free ride. I think we should make peace with it, as long as no one is hurt.

          3) Did I lose my purity by doing that? If not, why do I feel the huge discomfort when I imagine confessing this to my future wife?
          No you have not.
          In the process of masturbation, we have to imagine something. Everyone has his own imagination during masturbation and all of them are technically illogical.
          That imagination is just the temporary and we should neglect it then and there and get on with our lives, concentrating on work, studies and so on.
          You should not tell this to your future wife.

  70. Sheeja Paulos says:

    Thanks for this, Sir I am also suffering with lack of concentration in my work.. There are few tricks I did when something get in fade in my work..
    1. Counting numbers form 1 to 100
    2. Creating image in my mind like Triangle, Rectangle, Circle etc. Creating any one of them and keep concentrating for some time until it fades..
    Trying again and again..
    Lot many time my mind can’t focus on my work.. because lack of concentration also..

    If possible give some skill or meditation to overcome this.

  71. Meghraj says:

    Respected sir, I am 20 years old can I start practice of brahmcharya now?
    And how can i atone sins of masturbation?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, you can definitely start with Brahmacharya now.
      Do not worry about cleansing out the sins of masturbation. Do what is right, now. Do not worry or have guilty feeling about masturbation.

  72. Hello doctor,

    I am 25, till now no one had educated me about masturbation and it’s effects. I masturbate 2-3 times a week. But now I have stopped it completely. I am a sincere seeker of Advaita Vedanta since 3 years and my only aim is self realization and nothing else. Can I rebuild the vital energy that is lost totally? As you know the ojas should be high for seekers. Can I succeed in the spiritual path after wasting so much semens due to ignorance?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, no one can correct the past. It is only the present time, that is there at our hand. Guilty feeling will only cause more harm. Hence, do not worry about the past and continue with your current spiritual path with full honesty. I wish you all the success. Namaste 🙂

  73. juanAmir says:

    hi sir my name is juan, 20 years old how can i practice bramacharya if so many women are attracted to me because of this practice. is that true that if you abstain from masturbation(bramacharya) many women are attracted to you is that real and why?

  74. Dear sir

    I am 26 year old I am trying to follow Brahmacharya every day but every fifteen days because of my urges I masturbate I feel ashamed after masturbation please help me how to control my urges. I meditate everyday but still I am unable to control. Pl,ease help. Hare Krishna


  75. Deven sahni says:

    Namastey sir i am a 20 years old male and i want to know about inejaculation i have inejaculated my last 8 wet dreams and can i inejaculate all my wet dreams or i have to ejaculate once in a month and i donot practise masturbation and my experience after inejaculating was very good it made my brain very powerful but some amount of anger.please give me some information about semen retention and how much semen can we retent is there any limit.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, the quantity of semen retained is not important. The level of mental control is the important thing.

  76. Hello, I am a 14 year old boy. I have been a brahmacharya since I was 13 years old. But I had started masturbating around age 12. I had not learned about the dangers of maturbating until I was 1 and a half year into the addiction. At that point, I’ve tried to stop but I am not able to. I try so hard but cannot go 3-4 days without doing it again. So far I’ve masturbated consistently for 2.5 years and that may not seem like too much but it is a lot for me. I cannot approach my dad about this because he is a very traditional man and he would never understand. But I’ve tried many things such as dieting, meditating, exercising, time allotted to devotion, but I cannot seem to break my addiction. I had lost an extreme amount of semen, and nowadays I cannot think straight without a cloud forming in my mind. I am in desperate need to break this addiction and I would really absolutely love some professional tips as to how to stop. I have tried everything I could attempt and I am fed up of trying. Please tell what I could do to break the addiction.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      1. Do not worry too much.
      2. Do not be in too much hurry to stop masturbation altogether at once. It is not such a bad habit at all.
      3. Read this book – http://amzn.to/2mr2MgV
      4. Join a Yoga class – Practice Yoga and Pranayama for 20 minutes a day.
      5. Concentrate hard on studies. Aim to become one among top 5 in your class.
      6. Everything is normal with you. Your health is perfect. Nothing to worry at all. Enjoy your life 🙂

  77. victor150696 says:

    God will definetly bless you for this wonderful post Dr JV Hebbar.Thank you very much.I will try to maintain what you say.

  78. Are there any disadvantages of celibacy
    Of 6years before marriage?
    I am thinking that it may stop semen production

  79. Are there any disadvantages of celibacy
    Of 6years before marriage?
    I am thinking that it may stop semen production in body.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      It will not stop semen production. There are no disadvantages. One will be more able to love his wife better with celibacy before marriage.

  80. Sir i am in big trubble by follwing the path of. Bramcharya. And chanting gayatri mantra regularly. From last 6 month.
    By following bramcharya my mental abilities are.. Are affected a lot
    My intellegency got reduce to a great extent
    I cant do focus on my studies my memory doesnt work..
    Why this all side effect are happening with me
    And when i masturbate i become normal my intellegency mind come on track.
    Pls give me direction i had lost all hopes.

  81. Abhinav says:

    Sir will tratka candle gazing helps us to build concentration like vivekanada ?

  82. RAHURAJ says:

    Sir, I have tried many things to stop sexual distractions. But usually i am searching for any study material or using social media. I found myself on sexual content then i open some videos containing sexual act which exictes me and this results in masturbating and all the rubbish. I want to get out of this situation.
    I am 20 now and suffering from this from last 5 years.
    Is this has affected my mental abilities and eyes and all.
    And how to get rid of this all..
    Please do answer

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      For personal health advice, please consult an Ayurveda doctor directly.
      If you want my help in finding a good Ayurveda doctor for you, then let me know your place.

      For email advice (not a reliable option, we do not promise any cure), please write to our health expert Prof. Dr Prashanth MD (Ayu), PhD, here (paid service) –


  83. Siddharth says:

    I am a married man for last 8 years. Gradually i am continuously losing my memory and concentration. I cannot completely attain Brahmacharya as i am a husband. Loss of memory and concentration is highly affecting my life and career.
    Please suggest. Please help.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Please take Brahmi capsule – 1 at night after food for 2 months time. Available in amazon website here http://amzn.to/2qHH6CY

      For personal health advice, please consult an Ayurveda doctor directly.
      If you want my help in finding a good Ayurveda doctor for you, then let me know your place.

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  84. hello sir,
    there are few questions that makes me wonder,
    i would like to ask you that, as mentioned about Abstinence that one gains better intelligence, concentration etc,but how come many great people for one of a kind like Albert Einstein was so intelligent even though he didn’t followed abstinence because he got married at a very young age (24 or 25 yrs). Who knows how many relations he had with women, as hed married 2 times. Now the question is that even after involving in relationship with more than one woman and his theory of relativity, which was developed after marriage and not only that he had personal relationship with another lady after marriage and finally got married to her after his first wife.
    How could he be still so intelligent though he never followed any type of abstinence.
    my second question is that why does today’s research says That there’s no relation between masturbation and intelligence.
    thanks in advance for answering my questions, sir.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      This is like the question of an atheist scoring more marks than a devotee, though both have studied same number of hours.
      So, does that deter the devotee from praying? No.

      some people are born with more concentration, memory and intelligence.
      Following abstinence is a sure way to improve these traits, if one is poor in memory and intelligence.

      A clinical trial with abstinence is very hard to do, as the enrolled people for the trial need a strict control over their minds and sense organs.

  85. Meghraj says:

    Sir i broke my streak after 4 months how can i recover?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Nothing to worry at all. Just re-start. Do not feel guilty. Ultimately, the whole process is to keep the mind happy, peaceful and concentrated. All the best! 🙂

  86. sankalp raj dwivedi says:

    I followed celibacy in the age of 15 and from this age I did not waste my semen even a single time. Now my age is 20 and I think I am in the stage of highest level of celibacy.my target is to achieve the brahmcharya for 12 years and it seems that I will get my target.my face become more and more bright.I will completely eliminated sex/thoughts in my life.

  87. Lomash says:

    How can we recover & regain bramcharya

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Just practice and re-practice. Pranayama, Yoga, avoid distractions, control sense organs and mind.

  88. Good article, do you suggest any medicines for excessive sexual thoughts.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Usually I suggest Chandanasava – 10 ml at night after food for 2 months time.
      If it is associated with stress, anxiety then further medicines might be required.

      For personal health advice, please consult an Ayurveda doctor directly.
      If you want my help in finding a good Ayurveda doctor for you, then let me know your place.

      For email advice (not a reliable option, we do not promise any cure), please write to our health experts here (paid service) – https://easyayurveda.com/consult/

  89. Narottam says:

    Does night fall break bramhacharya..answer this question truthfully bcoz i never masterbate in my entire life .now i m 27 age and just one time night fall within 6 to 7 month.that means i m a bramhacharin?? But i listen from gurus of ramkrishna matha that even one drop loss of semen loss by night fall is also not called bramhacharya.i dont know what is the correct things on night fall.explain me about that does night fall break my bramhacharya.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      No, nightfall does not break Brahmacharya. This is because mentally, we are not adulterated with voluntary sexual thoughts when nightfall happens.
      One may get sexual dreams, which leads to nightfall. But it is not voluntary. Hence, it does not break Brahmacharya.

  90. Doyamoy says:

    Sir, i want to know that even after completing 12 years of brahmacharya, what ever the strength,power,gigentic will power etc we will gain and then we marry, will we loose what ever we had gained..?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      We will not loose all the benefits of Brahmacharya after marriage. It helps to love spouse, love the children and love the family and friends better. Brahmacharya helps to understand life and prioritize important things.

  91. Siddhant says:

    Is sattvic food important for following Brahmacharya?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes. Avoiding excess spicy foods and salt, avoiding junk foods, hotel foods, soda, pepsi etc.

  92. Sushant goel says:

    I read about vivekanada from early age and read about brahmacharya. Since then i masterbate very less but get night falls at almost 25-30 days.I have learnt reiki. But during college years I faced immense depression.Now also I do suffer at times depression,anxiety,panic attacks etc. I do not do any sexual activity or anything that stimulates it. But me head is filled with sexual thoughts at times when reiki energy or anything leads to energy increase.In daily life i suffer from fatigue unconsiously,lack of concentration etc.I do not get any interest in life or any work that I do.

    I have read a lot on brahmacharya literature and it claims that makes person strong extra-ordinarily but I do not feel anything like that or so.
    What should i do

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, I suppose you are suffering with guilty consciousness.
      I recommend to respect your thoughts – good or bad. Accept it as normal. It is very normal for any human being to have sexual thoughts, despite following Brahmacharya.
      Even nightfall is a very natural, physiological process.
      Nothing to worry.

  93. Manikanta says:

    How to stop nightfall completely

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, nightfall is a normal phenomenon.
      For personal health advice, please consult an Ayurveda doctor directly.
      If you want my help in finding a good Ayurveda doctor for you, then let me know your place.

      For email advice (not a reliable option, we do not promise any cure), please write to our health experts here (paid service) – https://easyayurveda.com/consult/

  94. Krishna prasad says:

    Hi, i have been on brahmachari path. Originally, in the beginning of abstinence i took bacopa and it cured my memory and thought function. However during my abstinence i drank one night and i entirely regret it. A few times in fact. But i have stopped for good. I notice my brain function regressed again though. Bacopa brahmi isnt cutting it now to repair brain function. Concentration is low. Was thinking maybe gotu kola and ashwagandha my restore my concentration? I know some of the attention problems are due to excessive text messaging. Just like movies and passion novels disrupt nervous system and attention, so too does small talk chatting on the phone or computer. Is my concentration cure to avoid the text and get deeper abstinence? By doing sadhana and patience with time? Im sure it will but how many months say, six to regain my attention?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, I think you are worrying too much about your concentration levels. With varying sleep, mind calmness, people around us, food that we eat, the concentration level goes up or goes down. It is normal. Do not worry about it and just concentrate on the work / studies that you do.

  95. My age is 23 now. I have been masturbating too much for 10 years. I thought it is harmless. Now I am coming to know the importance of semen retention and the importance of brahmacharya. I regret why I did not know about this before. I know now that rarely masturbating is fine and harmless, but I have done too frequently. I have now decided to follow the path of brahmacharya now but I am worried that it is too late now. I should have started before. Will following brahmacharya from now make up for the loss done so far?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, yes. It is never too late to start following Brahmacharya. Worrying about previous days will only worsen the health.

      • Krishna prasad says:

        Dear sanjay

        Forgive me if i am overstepping my bounds in suggestion.

        Okay sure it is not as dangerous to masturbate once a month but even more harmless is to never mastirbate at all.masturbation is not a natural process and if you do not forbid it entirely you may be fighting to resist it all month long every month until you are allowed to do it that one time every month. The psychological pain of fighting temptation could possibly be unhealthy. This is because your private part is ALWAYS conveniently at hands reach. Better yet never look at the private never touch it then you will not suffer. Keep thoughts pure, nocturnal emission can take care of the rest. If you really dont enjoy the thought of 12 years abstinence i suggest you retend semen for a long time and as you become more charming for it, natural mates will come to you (wife). Then you can procreate (attempt to make babes) once a month or less, when she is most ferrile in her monthly cycle. So too is sex without the intention of making a babe unnatural and harmful to you both.

        Om shanti
        Krishna Prasad

  96. Harpal Singh says:

    Dear all! I made a post here around 5 1/2 years ago. I shared my experience of following brahmacharya after moving to a different country for my studies. I was able to follow brahmacharya to a certain extent for a few months, but then started to masturbate again. As soon as I started chatting with girls or other temptations would arise, I would become weak. However, a few months ago I decided to take up my practice again. For the last 3 months I haven’t masturbated even once, despite facing temptations. Remember friends, failure is good, it makes you better for every time. Remember what Swami Vivekanda said; ‘Failures are the beauty of life. Never mind these failures, these little backslidings; hold the ideal a thousand times, and if you fail a thousand times, make the attempt once more’. I can personally say that I am stronger than before because of these failures.

    Now let me give some tips based on my own experience. I am in no way well established in brahmacharya, but hopefully you can learn something from my experience. I said in my previous post about getting a routine and try to take it as a challenge to stay strong when seeing girls. However, I have realised that brahmacharya is all about controlling the mind rather than supressing the urge of masturbation, which is unhealthy, so you might as well masturbate if you are going to supress. Make the mind pure with practice and you will be a great man/woman. Start going to the gym REGULARLY. A strong body will help your practice. A weak body is more easily seduced. Whenever you start feeling weak, read the works of Swami Vivekananda or watch his videos about Brahmacharya on youtube. Remember why you started following celibacy, your goal. If you fail, be happy and try again. If loss of semen was loss of life, majority of people on this planet would be dead already. So don’t be fanatic like a lot of you people are on here, no offence. And please stop thinking about doing it for 12 years, relax and just start practicing. You don’t know if you will be alive tomorrow, forget 12 years. It will be hard in the beginning, but relax and keep trying.
    Remember, this world is very superficial, and a lot of guys/girl will want you just because of your looks, so why do you run after a world like this? One day you will become old, so leave these things before they leave you. And that doesn’t mean going to the forest and becoming a monk. Enjoy this world whithout being attached to anything. Live like a king. Become who you were meant to be. For me personally I have accepted Swami Vivekananda as my guru and in his works he said that the secret to success is Brahmacharya and obeying your guru without question. So find your ideal/guru and make him/her proud. Don’t think too much and just go for it and obey your guru. And again, don’t be scared that you are going to die because you masturbated. It’s never too late and failure is good. Be happy, canalise your energy in the right direction and stop thinking/worrying too much. I have done that so please don’t make the same mistake, you won’t gain anything. Good luck to all and apologies for any hurtful comments. God bless you all!

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Thanks for sharing your valuable experience. 🙂

    • Beautiful comments. Very helpful. You are a good soul. Thank you very much!


      The way you are practising brahmacharya is the best possible way. I liked it a lot. Its ok if we fail, but its important to keep trying. And supression would lead to intertia. The urge to masturbate should be worked upon, and that must happen in a very natural process. Going to gym would definitely help.

  97. Will I get full benefits of brahmacharya if I start practising now for 12 years?I’m 21 years old.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes. All the best.

      • I practised sincerely for 1 month.Before I started my practice I used to sleep for 7 hours.Now I can only sleep for 4 hours but I have more energy.Is this sign of increased Ojas?Will it cause problems in future ? I am vata-kapha.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          It is definitely an improvement in brain power. If you are not severely tired, then it is fine to continue sleeping only for 4-6 hours a night.
          It will not cause any problems. If you feel like sleeping more, sleep more. If you feel like sleeping less, sleep less.

  98. Dear Sir
    I read the whole of your blog and the comments along with it. It is really helpful to understand why abstinence is necessary and how to get prepared mentally about it.
    But many fail because of abundance bad contents in electronic media now-a-days.
    As you have told it is a Abhyasa yoga, one will try, fail again try and go on…
    I want to know in this aspect whether natural foods that we take day to day, do they have any effect on our ugly desire? As I have found on another blog that non-veg including meat, fish, eggs, onion and garlic they also contribute increasing our passion for bad desire.Does these foods after digestion when converted into mental dimension enhance our ugly desires? Please suggest as per Ayurveda….

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      That is true. The suggested foods do contribute to the failure of Brahmacharya.

  99. It would be better if you could elaborate on this…

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