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Abstinence: Brahmacharya – The greatest tool to improve concentration

Of all the methods and techniques to improve concentation, memory, courage, and positivity, Abstinence – Brahmacharya is the novel most and greatest technique, if you have some faith in spirituality. Though it looks like a spiritual belief, Ayurveda also approves of benefits of abstinence.


Abstinence meaning:

  • Abstinence means Brahmacharya in Sanskrit. Abstinence refers to refraining one’s mind and body in indulgence of sex and sex related matters.
  • At the outset, it appears as if it covers only physical aspect. But it also covers the mental aspect.
  • If you indulge in sex, there is lack of abstinence at the same time, if you imagine about having sex, then also there is lack of abstinence.
  • Lack of abstinence is there if one thinks, sees, hears, chats, touches, indulgence with a desire of sex, there is lack of abstinence.
  • It is almost near to impossible for common people to practice abstinence at the highest level but it is possible to follow abstinence at certain levels based on one’s own capacity and comfort.

Benefits of abstinence: Why abstinence?

  • Brahmacharya is told as one among the three pillars of life. (other two are – food and sleep).
  • Ayurveda details: The Ojas – the essence of immunity is told as byproduct of Shukra (the hormones, semen and other components of sex). Hence, preserving Shukra leads to improvement in immunity.
  • Swamy Vivekananda was able to memorize whatever he used to glance, in a book. By reading a few lines of a paragraph, he used to get the meaning of the rest of the paragraph. He used to say that if one practices absolute abstinence for a period of 12 years, continuous, a special Nadi (nerve power) called Medha Nadi (Medha = intelligence) develops in one’s brain, which leads to tremendous memory and concentration.
  • Abstinence leads to multi-fold improvement in concentration, memory and courage.
  • For students, teenagers and children, abstinence is highly recommended.
  • Abstinence leads to character building.
  • Abstinence imbibes reliability, strength in character and trust worthiness.
  • Abstinence is the fuel for spiritual journey. No spirituality without abstinence.

How to practice abstinence

  • At the outset, it looks almost impossible to follow absolute abstinence. It depends upon one’s mind strength, practice and perseverance.
  • If not full abstinence, teenagers can at least resolve to avoid sexual activities at least till a particular point of time in their lives.
  • For married people, abstinence can be practiced at any available occasions, as in case of pregnancy, menstrual periods, being distant to each other etc.
  • Keeping oneself away from stimulations such as TV, wrong company etc helps follow abstinence.
  • Pranayama helps to keep the mind cool, calm and concentrated.

So, follow abstinence and be abstinent up to your capacity and till the time your mind is capable and enjoy its benefits.

Does night fall break the Brahmacharya?
Night fall is the common term, used for nocturnal emission, wherein the semen that is collected inside, overflows while the person is sleeping. This does not break Brahmacharya.
If retention of semen was the only criteria for celibacy, then a simple vasectomy operation would have made everyone to follow this noble path. But what actually matters, in following Brahmacharya is purity of heart and mind. Nothing else.

Dr JV Hebbar B.A.M.S, MD (Ayu), is an Ayurveda Doctor. Click here to consult Dr Hebbar
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  1. sir,then should we leave masturbation(once a week) at all,so that we can also gain the power…
    How can we preserve the shukra?it always over flows after 28 days if I dont masturbate at all…
    (age:14 years 11 months).

    Thank you

    • See, male genital system starts producing semen from the age of 13 or 14. From this age onwards, it will be produced and it will be ejected out, either manually (masturbation) or by involuntarily (default).

      During young age, if you follow abstinence, by not ejecting out the semen manually, it will help you to gain tremendous concentration and confidence. If it ejected out involuntarily do not worry. Let it happen. No problem. But for the best of your efforts, avoid masturbation. In this effort, if you fail and do masturbation as well, say rarely, that is also fine. Do not curse yourself, forget it and move on. No regrets, no sorry feeling. Just move on and enjoy life 🙂

      Just do not worry. But train your mind for concentration. You will go places.
      Once after you cross the teenage and become a fully grown man, take care of character. Remember, character will be the most powerful weapon in your arsenal.

  2. Thank You Sir,Thank You very much..actually I left masturbation 6 months ago and am experiencing wet dreams after every 28 days…
    Once I had an experience when I had not masturbated for a month and had been encouraged by my teachers,I got an extreme power like Swami Vivekananda.I could remember every single word I was studying just with a glance. I have now started meditating and I will try my best to revive that concentration and confidence again.
    Thank You very much for your help and advice.

  3. Is it necessary to practice abstinence for exactly 12 years?
    Because I have attained that extreme concentration and memory in just a month?

    • Memory is not only the benefit of practicing abstinence.
      It is one among the benefits. The other benefits are – self confidence, concentration, self esteem, robust health, courage, etc.(The list is not all inclusive)

  4. sir, i want to know how abstinence help woman ?? because she has regular monthly period ……

    • Very impressive question and line of thinking. I appreciate.
      Abstinence is not limited to restriction from sexual intercourse. It is both physical and mental phenomenon.
      Abstinence is a way of developing our character,
      Abstinence is a way of improving our concentration, memory and self confidence.
      Abstinence is a dynamic, practical way of maintaining purity and sanctity of body and mind.
      It benefits both men and women alike.

      Coming to physiological point of your query –

      See, abstinence does not yield its fruits like memory, concentration, confidence, etc just by holding back semen or menstrual flow. It is related to holding back and controlling our emotions, and attractions. Physiologically it influences the neuro-hormones.

      Swamy Vivekananda is of the opinion that separate school for female Sanyasins should be run be ladies only and the two schools of Sanyasins, of men and women should never be mixed. Because, the curtain that differs ‘Matha’ – The God from ‘Maya’ – the illusion – is very very thin.

      • as per my knowledge , vivekananda never said about restriction on meetings of male and female sannyasins. i would like to add that bramhachrjya is not absent from sexual activities but it is the control of sexual energy . you are the controller use it as per your requirement as a sound controller. best is that control ejaculation as per tantric methods.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Dear sir, many thanks for the comments.
          Let me quote an excerpt from the book – “Talks with Swamy Vivekananda”, which is the conversation between a disciple and Swamiji.
          Once Swamiji with his disciple (author of the above book), go to inaugurate a Female Brahmacharini school. While on their way, Swamiji clearly says that – Female Sanyasini Ashram should be entirely separately built far away from male Sanyasi Ashram.
          – Sanyasini Ashram should be entirely and independently handled by Sanyasinis, without any interference from Male counterparts.

          The purpose of the above two sentences are very clear. Maya can come in many ways to obstruct Sanyasi’s noble Path. a Sanyasi should always, in his sleep and while he is awake should be extra careful to follow his Dharma diligently with extra care.

          Brahmacharya is the control of both Sexual activity and sexual energy.
          You cannot control sexual energy without avoiding sexual activities.

          I am unaware of Tantric methods of controlling ejaculation. If you know, please share with us. It will be useful to lot of aspirants.
          Thanks and regards
          Dr Hebbar

  5. Thanks to your nice reply. Actually i want to know the theory of control monthly period.I practice abstinence but menstrual period break it. i think it is easy for male to preserve semen but for woman it is hard to control period. i regular do yoga and pranayama or try my best to free from attraction…..

  6. Hello Dr Hebbar
    I actually had a question regarding abhyanga. I want to use sesam seed oil for massage, but I don’t have any ayurvedic stores here so the only sesam seed oil I can get is “KTC Pure Sesam Seed Oil” I was hoping if you could tell me if I can use this oil for massage? Also can I apply this before going to bed and take shower next day (if this increases the effect?).

    Thanks on behalf

    • Dear Mr Harpal,
      There is no special ‘Ayurvedic’ sesame oil. Even for Ayurvedic purposes, we use the one available in general store. so, yes, you can use the same sesame oil that is with you. and applying the oil at night is a better way.
      Better to heat the oil for 30 seconds before applying.
      Longer the oil stays on skin, the better.
      But oil may harm your bed spread. If that is not a problem, then oil can surely be applied at night.

  7. Thank you very very much for answering so quickly…… I’ve also heard that gargling with sesam oil draws toxins out of the mouth. I was just wondering if should warm the oil for 30 secs in that case also?

  8. Hello sir,
    I am practicing brahmacharya from a week after 5 years. Now i feel like Masturbating (before i used to masturbate 2 to 3 times a day and was watching porn every night) and I feel like i want 2 go back 2 previous life even though i dont want to.. I feel lot of energitic, good memory and everything good in a week itself..
    But i am not able to concentrate on my Study. I feel dilemma about which life is better wen i sit to study and not able 2 study..
    whenever i sit 2 study my mind goes 2 discussion about which life is better..
    Is this thing is normal?
    Any suggestions please??

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      The dilemma that you are facing is the common thing that all of us, men face 🙂
      It is completely normal. I would recommend to stick to Brahmacharya for as long as possible. But if you happen to break it in between and give in to desire to masturbate also, there is nothing to lose. Just forget it and move on. It is not a competition with somebody else. It is a competition with yourself.
      But whatever you do, you should not feel guilty about it. Just deal it as a normal thing and move on.
      Wish you good health and a bright future.

  9. Sir,
    Does Brahmacharya helps in improving looks?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      First up, “improving looks” – if it means to look more attractive to females, you are out of Brahmacharya range.
      Brahmacharya will make you more confident, helps you face any given situation with fearless aggression and smile.

  10. Hi,

    I only recently discovered Brahmacharya and I must state that it makes perfect sense to me.

    As I sit-back, watch and document the activities of the human race, I cannot but wonder: how dumb do people have to get before they wake-up and smell what the Rock is cooking?

    It is clear to me that the most powerful of minds throughout history (especially within Ancient India), were well ahead of their time, in terms of applying pscho-physiological techniques to advance both their minds and bodies in the quest for godhood and ultimate supremacy.

    As someone who is 30 years of age and has never (ever) had any intimate contact with any living organism let alone a human, I can state with conviction that I am destined for greatness on this Earth.

    My goal: Biological Supremacy. I have a date with godhood and of becoming the greatest of creations and there is absolutely nothing that can stand in my way. My sovereignty (virginity) is sacred and the energy that I conserve and channel from it will propel me to becoming a Living God!

    The human race is an experiment that has gone out of control, threatening Mother Earth. But She will not allow Herself to be misused by humanity, for one day, She will destroy it.

    Mr. Z. Ashraf

  11. Sir , I have read your post on abstinence and it makes me a lot of sense. Unfortunately, I never got an advice on masturbation when I was 13. Sometimes in School I was told by teachers that doing it in control actually helps us to do better in studies. I am 20 now and never made any sincere effort to stop ejaculating. So I have been masturbating since 13, 5 times a week on an average.. Sometimes 3 per day. I wanted to ask that have I done an irreparable damage to my mental health ? If I practice abstinence now how much time it would take to become fully healthy. Will I ever be able to reach a state like someone who has been practicing abstinence from 13. Should I consider myself unlucky in not having received the right guidance..
    Thanks !

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      If I was put onto cricket training at the age of 5, then I would have trained hard and by this time, I could have become greater than Sachin Tendulkar. There will always be lot of ‘ifs’ in our lives. Let us not worry about them. Let us start building from where we stand.
      Do not worry about getting mental strengths by comparing yourselves to others. I believe, if you start following abstinence, as per your strength and capability, you will have your share of mental and physical benefits. Stop worrying about the past and start building your present and future from TODAY!

      • Yes Sir ! completely agreed to your wisdom punch “Stop worrying about the past”. But I was only concerned with where I stand in comparison to those who have been practicing abstinence from longer times and I have got my answer.

        But I still not fully convinced with Brahmacharya concept. Sachin Tendulkar has played incredibly well even after marrying Anjali. A newly married pair would have multiple orgasms often exceeding 5 times a week. That means there should have been noticeable decline in Sachin’s performance or any other athlete for that matter. Even Dhoni is married and performance is good. So there I had a doubt.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          There are many contributing factors to concentration and abstinence is one among them. The other factors are –
          1. Self confidence: The confidence that I can bat well, can face any bowler in the world, will make me a better batsman.
          2. Dedication: Tendulkar once went to school level match to another place along with his team mates. They all, along with his coach stayed in the hotel. At night, 3 am, some big noise was coming from the roof. Coach goes upstairs and sees that Tendulkar is practicing sweep shot by throwing the ball to the wall and playing the sweep shot. Sunil Joshi, a long time Ranji Player used to travel 70 km every day in the morning just to reach the cricket ground.
          3. Passion – Steve Jobs tells – if you are not in love with what you do, you can never succeed.
          4. Genetic, family, hereditary factors, influencing skills and mind set.
          5. Fearlessness and determination to chase your dream. – Tendulkar himself and his parents would have feared that if he continues with cricket, what will happen, or what if he gets injured while playing fast bowlers, then he would not have become a champion.

          Abstinence is one of the factors to improve concentration. It also helps to improve confidence and dedication also.
          Long story short, let us not compare with others. You following abstinence to your capacity will be a better person than you, not following it.
          Abstinence to your capacity means – as far as you can. and when you break it and masturbate, do not feel guilty about it. Just be cool about it and move on, try again.

        • I completely disagree with your comments regarding the cricketing performances of both Tendulkar and Dhoni.

          The fact of the matter is that through their partnerships with their wives (and subsequent copulative acts), both of these misguided men have decided to “share their bodies” and therefore (like most men on Planet Earth), suffer from low self-esteem and decreased biological power.

          If you think both of these men are superb cricketers now (whilst paired with partners), just think how good both of these guys would be without them.

          I would like to take this opportunity to remind those who doubt the Path of Brahmacharya, about the following words associated with human pair bonds: weakness, humiliation, disgraceful, submissive, cowardice, no self-respect.

          The fact of the matter is that Nature “forces” both men and women to submit to another organism and forego their sovereignty forever – for any act of intimacy = a permanent stain upon the Temple that is the Individual Human Body, transforming the Sacred into the Untouchable. And for what…to breed new life upon this Planet and continue the Cycle of Pain and Suffering.

          The whole point of Individual Human Existence is to Discover Oneself – NOT to forgo one’s Identity for the benefit of the greater good (humanity).

          The vast majority of humanity is living the Nightmare that a certain Mr. (Neo) Andersen was living, whilst bound and chained to the false reality of The Matrix.

  12. Harpal Singh says:

    Hello Dr. and everyone else
    I just want to share a good experience. A year ago I would masturbate almost everyweek. I slowly learned about brahmacharya and the benefits. And then I just decided to try to follow it. I tried to disciplin myself and i could go a month without masturbation. In january i went on an exchange semester to another country and have been living in my own apartment. I am here until june and i can proudly say that I have only masturbated a few times in total in the first 2 – 3 months. And since then I havent masturbated even once and i dont feel any urge anymore 🙂 By the way I have not ejaculated since january, which i am very proud of. Its very though in the beginning, the lust becomes like a wild beast which is important to control. Something that has helped a lot is to keep myself busy somehow and try to have a routine, early sleep and early rising, exercise etc. I try to take it as a challenge to control mye feelings and lust even when a very beatiful lady comes in front of me. I dont feel the desperate need for a girlfriend neither, something I used to do before. I am learning to be happy with myself and love God. I have started to do some mantra meditation, for peace of mind and to experience God. I still have a very very very long way to go and yet to explore the benefits of bhramacharya. I know a lot of people dont recognice celibacy as something great, and I respect that, everyone has their own opinion and I am not enough knowledged in this area. I am just trying to find and exerience the benefits of brahmacharya. But I can surely tell you that the feeling of being able to control myself is great and I feel like I am building up my character. Please forgive me if I have written anything wrong.


  13. @harpal singh ,You clear mind and purity of thoughts, your humble ness tells itself the effects of celebacy.may God bless us all.

  14. Harpal Singh says:

    Thank you very much Anand bhai, may God bless us all 🙂

  15. Yes indeed ! Abstinence does works well. I realised its benefits after a bit of control. I think its ok to have as much sex as one wants after the age of 25 when one is bound to marry. Even the doctor told me, this age is not the right age for ejaculation.

  16. hello sir,

    right now, i’m 33 yrs old. i started masturbating at the age of 13. in the past few years i started educating myself with Ayurveda and general health care.

    i understood the following things, correct me if I’m wrong.

    during the puberty of a men (age 12 – 18), it is very important hold the semen (not to release it manually and no issues about the natural release) to let the penile muscle development and go up-to the natural size.

    if a person releases it manually and does it frequently during the period that he was about to attain puberty, then the penile size doesn’t attain natural size and remains smaller in size.according to modern science, penile muscle is developed as the result of the testosterone production.

    can you please share the Ayurveda perception on this topic and is it possible to improve the penile size even after crossing puberty.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no truth or recorded evidence in saying that masturbation in teenage will harm the growth of genitals.

  17. Followes of Celibacy – Here is a good book to read


    Paragraph from book:
    There are two things in this world that one should not
    waste. One is money and the other is semen. All the money in
    this world is going down the drain. It should not be used for
    oneself. Money should not be misused and one should practice
    brahmacharya as much as possible.

  18. sashidharan says:

    I have a question to ask u sir….if i follow bramacharya upto 26yrs and then if i get married…the powers like concentration,memroy,self esteem etc will be destroyed ah????

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      See, if that was true, then all men who are married should have zero level of concentration, memory and self esteem. Till the time you are unmarried, follow Brahmacharya up to your strength. After marriage also, sexual life is common. But do not be too much greedy, have certain amount of control over desires and lead a healthy life. That way, you can still have good memory, concentration and memory.

      • sashidharan says:

        thank u sir…so love and marriage life will not destroy my mind power….if i have contol over my desires ah sir?????

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Of course not!
          But when you say, ‘love’, if it is before marriage love, then there is a chance of breaking of Brahmacharya rules, even if the partners are not having physical relationship.

  19. sashidharan says:

    🙂 great words sir…thanks for ur info

  20. sir since the age of 13 i have been masturbating and it had made me depressed,lonely,silent,anxious,less confident ,lazy,horny and reluctant to do any work,help others,speak freely with girls…also am too bored and not enjoying anything in life…i hv made lot of promises not to masturbate ,but didn’t follow…became too guilty…now for the past 1 month i didn’t masturbate,so felt little strong and confident without laziness and boredom…
    after exactly a months time,today i masturbated again…is there a way i can quit it for a year and will i be able to satisfy my wife and give her a baby (if i marry after a year’s absistence)
    please advise.Thanks in advance…

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      First you please remove guilt from masturbation.
      Let me lay out a few rules for you.
      1. Masturbation is a healthy habit, if done once in 15 – 30 days.
      2. There is no magic formula to quit masturbation for life.
      3. Following Brahmacharya is a process. We falter, again we fight back, try and try again, fall, get up and walk again. It is a process and not a state.
      4. Masturbation does not make you impotent. You will surely have a normal sexual life. I assure you. Do not worry. Just concentrate on your studies / work. Nothing to worry even if you masturbate once a while

      • hey thanks for such a good reply and congrats for your dedicated work in bringing up better youth to India…..
        I have read,listened lot of talks on masturbation and every siddha doctor says masturbation depletes your live sperm cells(oligospermia) premature ejaulation,less sperm count,less mobile sperm,
        and it will make impotent.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          You can believe those Siddha doctors or you can believe me. Choice is up to you to make.
          Swami Vivekananda said – “Each soul is potentially Divine.” That applies to you as well!. You are Divine and you are good. Believe that first.
          Whether you wish to spend your life like a moron, always worrying about this little thing called masturbation, or you spend your life like a lion, concentrating hard on your life goals, studies, career, trying to help your family members, parents, poor – is your choice to make.
          Just consider masturbation as an inevitable part of your growth. Consider it as normal process like urination or defecation. Do not overdo it. If you feel like it, do it once in 15 – 30 days, and march towards your goals with confidence, courage.
          BE FEARLESS !!!

          • sashidharan says:

            sir if bramacharya is a healthy process…then y sir swami vivekanandha died at his young age???? :/

          • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

            Have you read his works? Have you understood and incorporated any of His sayings in your life?
            I suggest you to read ‘Talks with Swamy Vivekananda’ – A small book on him for only 60 rupees.
            Just read it and you will get the answer for your question.

          • Sir ,u changed the path of my life.Around 125 days back i posted in this wall for your advise to quit masturbation.U gave me confidence and courage .from then on i started performing well in office,became more healthier,energetic,strong….was happy and positive all throughout these days…read lot about bramacharya and tried following it….life was just with peace and happiness.All my previous guilt,regrets and hard memories started to perish…i became a new man.I was marching for 150(150th anniversary of swami vivekanada)days without masturbation.But today i relapsed ,masturbated watching porn…..Am not going to put myself down.Again I will start my 150 days bramacharya starting from tomorrow Apr 7th.Will post my success story on my 150th day.please give me courage and confidence to achieve it.Thanks!!!

          • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

            YOU CAN! Did you read my sentence correctly?
            YES! YOU CAN!!!

  21. sashidharan says:

    k sir…sex is a healthy process or not???

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes, if it is done with pure love, after marriage, with a controlled frequency.

      • sashidharan says:

        if i followed bramacharya and attain control over my mind…then if i got married, again my mind would be filled with lust and sex. sir?

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          After marriage, do not fill your mind with lust and sex.
          In stead, fill your mind with love towards your beloved. Sex will remain only as extension of that love. Then you will be on the right path.
          Consider your wife as the most valued person of your live, with whom you will be sharing the rest part of your life. Do not limit your imagination of your wife as just a slave for your desires.

  22. Hello Sir. Is it true that Hirda (Chebulic Myrobalan) is helpful in practise of Brahmacharya? If yes, how it helps? And can you please tell me where can I get it and what should I ask for?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Yes, it helps in Brahmacharya. The mode of action is quite difficult to explain. It keeps the sexual hormones under check.
      Having said that, it is not good to use Hirda for more than 2 – 3 months continuously.
      It has mild laxative action.
      You can get it in the market in the name of ‘Haritaki Churna’.
      Better to consult a doctor for the right dose and method of taking.

      • Thank you for your kind reply sir. Does that mean that extended use of Hirda can render one impotent? In case if I want to lead totally pure life, still it is not good for me? Will it affect production of semen int he body as well? I am asking this because semen is converted to Ojas and if production of semen itself is affected the purpose of Brahmacharya might be defeated. Please excuse me for my straight forward question but I couldnt find any other source for finding answers to my question.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          I like straight forward people and questions.
          There are no proof that extended use of Haritaki causes impotent. But it is astringent herb. It takes away moisture from the body. Hence it is not indicated for a long time usage.
          I do not recommend Haritaki as the medicine to maintain Brahmacharya.
          Probably there is no medicine for ‘Brahmacharya’
          However, restraint from Tea, Coffee, Non veg, Garlic, Onion etc help in concentration.

          • Sir, thank you for giving me your valuable time and advice. This website is really very helpful for today’s youth and one of the incomparable ways of serving the society. I have also downloaded the book and will go through it. Thank you once again. Regards.

  23. Veronica says:

    Dr. this is from a woman (I’m one of your patients.) I practice alot of yoga and find that I have a tremendous amount of energy and have physically abstained from sex for years (not by choice.) Yet i respectfully submit that as a result the mind is constantly or quite often fantasizing about sex. And as a result there is a sense of built up tension in the body/mind.
    So my question is for a householder-in Western world wouldn’t it be healthier to have sex with a loving, single partner, than to abstain totally? As other teachers say abstaining can cause other problems, since the energy is not circulating. In fact I have reproductive problems and my Chinese herbalist calls it “stagnation.”

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, thanks for a very good question.
      1. Complete mental and physical abstinence is for Sanyasins and for those who seek eternal bliss and who have chosen to live sacred. That is a very hard path to follow. Not all of us can chose to be so.
      2. It is natural for all of us to get sexual thoughts. Procreation by means of recreation is the rule of nature. We are all bound by it. But between these two extremes – complete abstinence and having a sexually active life, in this scale of two ends, we have to chose a place where we belong.
      Sex can be had by anyone, with anyone, within ‘legal and ethical boundaries’. Though ethical boundary is a subjective issue, there are some guidelines which can be generalized. They are –
      Sex with love and a relationship with healthy long perspective is better than lustful solitary outbursts.
      Efforts to develop a love-full relationship (and having sex) is far better than suffering with under confidence because of the arising sexual desires and suffering due to it.
      Extra marital relationship, using sex as a tool to achieve a vendetta or to get something is strict no no.

      Speaking about “stagnation” – If one is having completely good control over mind, then it is absolutely fine to follow complete Brahmacharya in its purest form.
      But if someone is not mentally inclined for absolute Brahmacharya, and is getting sexual thought, then it might cause ‘stagnation’.

      Hope I make some sense?

  24. One question.
    Is there any side effects of not having sex at all ?
    If no,what will happen with semen then?because it’s being produced all the time.

    Actually i have good control(still practicing yoga a lot) & assure that i can live without sex all the life,but once my friend told me that its very dangerous to health.Is it really danger?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no problem if someone does not have any sex.
      In such a person, semen usually flows out at night or along with urine.
      I do not think it is dangerous. Congratulations. 🙂

  25. I agree with it. But for a married individual how it be brahmacharya.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Following restraint in festivals, during periods, full moon and no moon days, during pregnancy.
      Putting love ahead of lust. are some form of Brahmacharya to be followed.
      Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa Ji told that after a few kids are born, the couple should live together like brother and sister. Though it may not be possible for many, some restraint and some Brahmacharya is always good to follow

  26. Brahmacharya certainly does improve concentration, memory and several other things. I speak from experience. My health improved a lot after I started observing the practice. However, to reap the full benefits of sexual abstinence you have to be mentally chaste as well; only then will the body cooperate. Good luck to all who choose to follow this great path.

  27. Sir,I am practicing brahamcharya but there is night fall weekly what should I do?

  28. sir “talks with swami vivekananda” book is avialble in english ..
    can u pls his book in hindi language. i tried but not found any book with this name.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, sorry that I do not know about its Hindi Version. But its English version is very easy to read and understand. For Hindi Version, please contact local Ramakrishna Math.

  29. Hi.

    I guess controlling the mind is toughest thing if one is not involved in practice of Brahmacharya. On the contrary, it becomes easiest if one is determined and self controlled.

    I started practicing brahmacharya and its effects are just as you mentioned in your article…

    Hard thing is.. continued practice of brahmacharya without interruptions and deviations… Will some mantra be of any help ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Mantra or such other spiritual practice definitely helps. But for that, you will need to have a Spiritual Guru for guidance.

  30. if brahmcharya is total retention of semen then why nightfall occurs,if they occur how can it be converted into ojas in our mind sometimes i feel swami vivekand also experienced nightfall .

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Brahmacharya is not about total retention of semen. It is about mental control and perfectly pure and ethical mental and physical behavior. Night fall can happen to a person following Brahmacharya, because of physiological reasons (any normal person would produce sperm and semen, which needs evacuation).
      But there are super-natural Tantric techniques to stop sperm / semen production, which Swamy Vivekananda was following.
      This guess is based on a Tantric practice, which Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa followed successfully. In the ultimate stage of that practice, one has to sit on the lap of a naked woman but with singular mind on God, which Sri Paramahamsa Ji successfully passed.


    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, sexual urge continues to exist even after vasectomy. Hence, rather than worrying about retention of semen, night fall (which does not break Brahmacharya anyways), concentrate more on ‘purity of mind’. If the mind is pure and one with the divine, whether the semen is produced or not, does not matter.

  32. Sir, is there any treatment for homosexual problems in ayurveda?(sorry for irrelevant post in this topic)

  33. 1)What is life span of a sperm?
    2) If its not wasted during night fall/ sexual activities, where it will go after its life?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      1. The life span of sperm after ejaculation depends on the circumstances. Sperm ejaculated during intercourse without protection, can live in a woman’s cervical mucus or upper genital tract for three to five days.

      2 It eventually goes out in the form of night fall.

  34. Dear Doctor
    Great article…
    I read complete article along with all Q & A
    Please re-circulate such useful articles to your all existing and new subscribers.
    God will be always with you for your great work for human being.

    Thanks again

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, thanks for your feedback. I try my best to circulate all my articles to the new subscribers. I have also included these in my ebooks and emagazines.

  35. Hi Sir! First of all great website with a lot of information on ayurveda! Well done!
    As I understand, one needs to be pure in thoughts, but will that help turn sperm into energy or ojas? Or are there other ways to convert the sperm? Also when you see a beautiful woman, how is a brahmachari ideally meant to handle that situation? One shouldn’t suppress as I understand, but how do you control the feelings?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Purity in thought helps to improve Ojas in the body, as it avoids losing mental energy in the form of mental mischief.
      There are many methods to hold mental purity when you see a beautiful woman. A Bhakti yogi (who has totally surrendered to his Diety), would praise the Lord for creating such a beautiful creature. By praising the Lord, he has converted attention towards that lady to pure divine love towards God. (Source: Divinepark.org)
      A Jnana Yogi (Knowledge based spiritual practitioner) would not recognize the beauty of the lady at all. He would simply consider the body as meager as mud.
      (This is what I have read and understood, I personally try to practice these methods. But sometimes I fail.)

      • vijay gt says:

        Dear sir… I practiced brahmacharya for six months. I felt like i was walking with god.
        Later the bad habits started creeping in, like watching porn…I felt guilty. I did not stop there. I took a oath infront of god that I will treat all the women in world as my mother, sister and daughter.thiss resolution has given me intense strength.

        But still sometimes failed….my mind tempted me to watch porn….
        Now I have taken up new resolution that , all the women are goddess Lakshmi… And if I look at any women, even in movies with bad thoughts…my father Narasimha (goddess Lakshmi’s husband) is going to kill me.
        This resolution I am going to have for rest of life.

        Sir… Am I moving in the right path ?
        In this kaliyuga…. Its very difficult to get a guru who can show the correct path like Raghavenda swamy in 16th century.

        Please comment…

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Dear Vijay,
          First up, please make up your mind – what you actually want to become. If you want to be a family man, once in a while masturbation / porn watching is just fine.
          If you want to be a monk, then common layman’s routine will not help you. I suggest you to join Sri Ramakrishna Ashram.
          I suggest you not to take such oaths / promises in front of God, that you cannot hold.

          • Dear Vijay,
            Anchor your mind here – “I am in a celebacy mood”. Avoid fight with your self. The opposite memories triggered will die on its own, when you do not pay attention to it. By Vowing act, many times we are actually strengthening what we do not want


  36. gino garcia says:

    hi there

    i believe there is 4 stages in life .Brahmacharya is the first one .i am 48 years old .i have done everything .drugs -party-sleep around .i have start practicing abstinence and feel very sharp mind and body . Do i am on the stage that i can give away sex forever? how would i benefit from abstinence ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      There is no barrier for entry to Brahmacharya. You can start it at any point of your life. You will have more energy, courage, better concentration, and an agile mind because of it.

  37. Hi doctor,

    First I would like to thank for this wonderful article.

    I agree the benefits of abstinence you have listed here,As i experienced most of it.
    But some doubts please clarify.

    1.Is abstinence good for prostate health?.Since most internet resources suggest regular ejaculation for prostate health.
    2.Is abstinence cause anxiety problems(worry)?
    3.If abstinence continue for a long period(above 6 months or years),will it cause impotence or erection problems?
    4.Is there any relation between hairloss and (abstinence or masturbation).


    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      1. Even a person following strict abstinence might have night fall, and thereby losing excessively stored sperm / semen. Absitence is more related to brain , mind and heart, than the reproductive system.
      2. No. In fact, it increases confidence.
      4. No.
      4. No.

  38. Hello sir

    I started at the age of 14. And i was shy to ask any one that how many time ‘s a healthy man should leave sperms in a week and so on. now am 21 and now am Mastrubuting twice a week with exact intervals. Is that good that i stop mastributing now and i know i can control it because when ever i was Mastrubuting i used to think that if i dont Mastrubute twice a week it will affect the healthy life. So i can quit doing it, please suggest me will it affect my health if i stop mastributing as i read in google that a healthy person should do Mastrubation twice a week. Please suggest me i am confused from many years not months nor days.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, I would say masturbation once in a week or in 15 days is good enough. If you can control it, you can delay its frequency. There is no rule that twice a week masturbation is the norm.

  39. Hello sir, I have some questions for you regarding my current situation and what to do.

    I am an 20 yr old male who has been having a very hard time lately.

    I began daily masturbation at about age 10 and sometimes will do it up to 4 times per day. At about age 14 I started having concentration problems, memory issues, and low confidence. At 16 I became depressed with anxiety, and this still continues to this day.

    Could masturbation been the thing hat has been hindering me from being a happy functioning person?

    Would celibacy for a few months restore some of the lost vitality?

    I’ve been reading a lot on the subject, and it seems that many cultures believe that semen invigorates the body is this true? Because modern medical people seem to think that it is perfectly ok to indulge in sex and masterbation as much as you want.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      The guilt feeling associated with masturbation causes person to lose confidence and to have memory issues etc.
      Celibacy or at least limiting masturbation to once in a week or 15 days can be a great way to improvise mental and physical health..
      All the best for that.

      • Hello Sir. I am sorry to contradict your fine advice, but I read about Bramacharya from articles written by Swami Sivananda. He said, unequivocally, that masturbation causes depression, enervation, and memory loss, to name only a few of it’s negative affects. I think you are misleading the questioner to say that it is only the guilt feeling associated with it that is causing problems. That is not a correct teaching according to Sivananda. A sense of guilty can actually come from the higher conscience that knows masturbation is harmful and a terrible waste of divine energy. Sorry, but I felt compelled to offer this information.

  40. Hello Doctor,

    I would like to know if the voluntary removal of semen each 4 days during a hindu fasting period is acceptable considering that a normal human being has little control on his body and natural mechanism.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      If someone has very little control over his urges, then no problem.
      But, if someone wants to follow a spiritual path, I do not approve of such a practice. If you are a spiritual seeker, it is advisable to hold back the urge as long as you can and do not set yourself a goal of evacuating the semen once in fixed number of days.

  41. Abhijit says:

    sir, great article.
    I just want to explain my problem. i have a lot of anger in me. i too have a touchy nature. when people starts commenting negatively, i take it personally and then i cant concentrate properly in my studies. i know the fact that it is a natural law that people comment on each other negatively and one should just avoid and go ahead. but i am not able to change my attitude. please give me some tips so that i dont face any problem further.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Just stay away from negative people and become friends with only those who boost your confidence.

  42. hello sir,
    i am 20 yrs old ,i read ur article and i know the value of abstinence but sir the tragic part is i tried to control my attraction to a limit but now few months before i met someone to whom i was strongly attracted and could not control myself in hiding my emotions which has now resulted in being in relationship but at a mental platform only and by not engrossing physically , i used to refrain from these subjects but now i feel restless towards it and cant stop myself being in contact with him, and we both are serious to it and will definately marry in the future , but sir i feel myself at fault and most of time keep on worrying on this subject that i have lost my abstinence which i dont want to , plss sir show me the path and how i can continue relationship without involving much and maintaining celibacy too at the same time till the time i get married, pls sir i need help

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, loving someone is not against to the rules of abstinence, as long as physical relationship is not involved. But if it is done without the permission and blessings of elders, and there are a lot of cultural differences, then there will be problems on ethical and social problems. Get the permission from your parents and marry that guy soon. Wish you all the success. 🙂

  43. hello sir ,
    till which age abstinence should be followed

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Depends on goals and ambitions. If someone wants to take monk-hood, she needs to follow it for life.
      If someone wants to have an ethical marital life, she can follow only till marriage.

  44. dimple c says:

    Sir i read your all coments and start to follow bhramcharya but suddenly i thought of doing masturbation plz help me. Is masturbation once in a week is bd i am at present 15 years old

  45. I am following abstinence since one year but I see no benifits mentally.
    a worse situation is that I get frequent headache .. Is it because I am doing pranayam which I going wrong . As I guess my spinal posture is mot correct. Is this the reason of my case ..what should I do sir..

  46. Sir…

    This is an excellent article with inspiring questions and answers about Brahmacharya.

    Some points that might be helpful to aspirants are:

    The rules of Brahmacharya for both men & women are same. By observing Brahmacharya, we cultivate the company of God inside and outside. As time passes, with steady practise, the Prana whose gross expression is sexual fluid (retas) will start to transmute itself to Ojas. Thus there is no production of semen (retas) but rather the Prana is transmuted . Once semen is passed is formed, either it has to come out voluntarily through intercourse, masturbation or through nightfall. In women, the loss of retas is experienced during sexual dreams or orgasm while awake. Thus physical abstinence is only temporary without strong spiritual background.

    After a person is established in Brahmacharya, the Yogic scriptures say that the nerves responsible for outlet of semen get so thinned that the Brahmachari will not enjoy the sexual act and will recoil in pain during sexual act when they advance in spirituality after years of unbroken Brahmacharya. At this time, the Brahmacharni will have cessation in monthly periods. There are spiritual women giants who did not have such monthly periods recorded in the spiritual books

  47. Sir i always try follow celebacy ,..but as i start to follow celebacy my mind start worring on sily sily thng..i m not able to do study my subject in deep..at any cost i hav to follow celebacy.. But celebacy affect my mental state.. And whenever i masturbate i feel very relax and with more concentration i do my study..
    Sir pls show me right path..what should i do..

  48. Hi sir, I m 17 and till now I use to masturbate twice a week..so if I starts brahmacharya now for my lifetime..is it possible for me to attain vigour and vitality like bhishma,parsurama,hangman or vivekananda??

  49. Namastey sir. please, can you explain symptoms when sperm is converted into ojas?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Good memory, confidence, concentration, pleasure in meditation, being truthful. Good immunity etc.

      • thank you so much for answering. sir can you explain effects of keeping hair on body. i read about that after attaining certain length they stopped and gives vitality and strength and very helpful in meditation. what ayurveda says about this? i read on this link ,https://www.3ho.org/articles/all-about-hair-yogi-style.

        • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

          Ayurveda does not recommend keeping hair. It actually recommends to cut all hair once in 15 days. (reference: Ashtanga Hrudaya Sutrasthana and CHaraka Samhita Dinacharya chapter).
          I do not think hair has anything to do with concentration of mind. Of course, ancient Rishis were leaving the hair to grow as they were less focused on body or physical looks.
          Swami Vivekananda and all the Sanyasins of Ramakrishna Math shave their head.

  50. is masturbation cause hair fall or do not permit hair growth?

  51. hi sir, i am 20 years old male,
    Q1) would brachmacharya be waste if one does not perform pranayamas, meditation, japas regularly for the conversion of sexual energy into ojas which forms the finest brain?
    Q2) what are the exercises one(brachmachari) should perform in order to convert sexual energy into ojas…?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      I do not call Brahmacharya waste without Pranayama, meditation etc. However, if it is accompanied with other things, it is good. Even without meditation etc, Brahmacharya alone can be an effective tool to empower brain with special concentration and strength.

      Meditation for at least 5 minutes a day, pranayama for just 2 – 3 minutes a day, 5- 10 Surya Namaskara are three simple things that one can do.

  52. ravinarayan says:

    homosexual feelings is correct or not

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      I do not have any problem with people being homosexual. Just take sufficient care about emotions, ethics and hygiene.

  53. Selvamuthukumaran says:

    Masturbation without thinking about sex and,practising full celibacy but only masturbating for good feeling….am I breaking the rule of brahmacharya?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:


      • Maturbation is one of the worst habits. Unfortunately I have engaged in it most of my life. I sorely regret it. Read what the great Yogis, like Sri Sivananda, say about it. You must PRESERVE your seed. So much prana goes into producing it. If you would realize that, you would never masturbate again. And the worst thing is that it will guarantee that you stay on the wheel of death and rebirth. How many lives do you want to keep suffering??

  54. I am following celibacy as long as possible.I also want to ask one more important thing that will the urge to masturbate will decrease slowly if I had followed it for 1 month. Will the task become easier after I have successfully followed this thing for 1 month or my urge to masturbate will go on increasing day by day. Will this task become tougher & tougher day by day?Or After some the all thing will become stable & easy & less difficulty(or no difficulty) will come after some particular point of time while following it?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, the urge to masturbate may increase or decrease based on your mental strength. Firm determination is key here.

  55. Very informative article and comments.
    I liked all of them, thanks all.
    I have one question sir.
    As i heard/learnt about brahmacharya for married is, just not thinking/involving in any
    sexual thought/act with anybody else other than own wife/husband. Like rama. Is it not true?I have seen examples of many saints/rushis and intelectuals who were married and still were saits/religious leaders.
    correct me if wrong.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      You are right.
      Brahmacharya for married couple also involves prioritizing love ahead of lust.

      The great Rishis and saints would eventually take up complete Brahmacharya, devoid of any sexual activities.

  56. Dear sir,
    I am trying to keep brahmcharya, but I am facing big problem of nightfall.
    In normal it happens to me after every seven days, and from last 5 days it is happening me daily, sometime it happens two time in night. I do kapalbhati, bhastrika, anulom-vilom, bahya-pranayam daily. I also used to medited 15-20 minute every night before sleep. then also night happen to me. and this is happening from last 6-7 years now I am about 24 years old. I have also try some Ayurvedik medicine like shatawar, safed-musali, ashwagandha, kaunch beej mixture, and shilajeet, chandraprabhawati sometime. and one more thing I do not masturbate.

    Please give me some strong recomondation how can I keep my brahmacharya. I is my life time aim. I don’t want to marry.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, if you are following Brahmacharya, then no need to take Shaavari, Safed Mushli, Kaunch etc which would enhance sperm / semen production
      Just stop them and follow your daily routines.

    • SOURABH GANDHI says:

      Sir J V Hebbar . yes it is true that if you want to follow Brahmacharya then you have to stop it t form by tantra .. about 11 to 12 monty ago when i was doing meditation kundilni activated . i think that was activated with the grace of god. then my hand goes to the private part and some mantra by lips . after that life .mechanisum of body changed completly. after taking food around 6 hours later automatically bandha occured automatically i think that was jalandher bandha.. and veerya goes to the brain. it feels something cold drops have goes to the brain . you feel so realx. when kundilini activated your body start doing yoga, bandha and aasan etc. after than night fall stops . no loose of semen. it continuous for 8 to 9 months . after taking food about 6 hours later bandha at navel (manipura chakra). and veera goes to brain .whwn we go deeper in mediatation after kavilya stage . when a person got kavilya stage after that new things comes . there is braham granthi in mooldhana chakra . which actually forces for sexually attraction and to reproduce . you can say it is the gland which produce hormones which i feel. this is a knot . with the help of meditation and pure thoughts you can open that knots . when my knot open with the grace of god . then bandhas stops at manipura (navel , nabhi). now life is that whenever veerya forms it directly goes to the brain. i warmly thanks dr jv hebbar, after reading your article on this website my life has been changed. i was firstly inspired with your article and then vivekananda who inspire me a lot. . read “RAJ YOGA ” WHO WANT TO FOLLOW Brahmacharya.



  57. Hi Sir,
    I am a female and I want to know that if food is touched by father(incase father has unchaste thoughts about daughter) and his daughter eats the hand touched food of father ,can her(her daughter) brahmcharya be broken.

  58. Dear Dr,
    Request you to please help the today’s youth and attain God’s blessings. (do not take my mail negatively. nothing to do with you / nor to criticize you by any means. This is to help youth through you. Because you have access to them by your site)

    I think you need to interview the people who are following Bramhacharya since a very long time. (minimum 6 months and more). For those kind of persons they might feel trouble in sex after marriage. Like PE, ED etc. Those problems may be because they kept their glands (responsible for sex act) that produce required hormones for sex not in use for a very long time. Also their testosterone levels might come down, because they did not make enough stimulation to keep their testosterone levels at required levels or to keep it more.

    I feel Bramahacharya is recommended completely only for the sanyasis / sanyasins/ females. In other cases students can follow it until the completion of their basic studies,. i.e., intermediate / +12. Normally in olden days by this time the youth used to get married and were able to live like lord Rama (if they wished to do so) by performing sex act with only their wives. It is a peak life time 16 to 26 years of age where the youth has a very strong instinct towards sex. And I feel this is a very important thing to know that they are very normal, healthy and not impotent if they are sexually stimulative in that age. so in this peak age if they get married, it is fine for them. so that they can involve in sex with their life partners and keep their sex health healthy. Other wise for those who’s marriage is destined late, for those if you recommend 100% bramhacharya and if they follow that 100% out of fear for God, then, are they not going to get affected after their marriage? This is a serious subject and need to be sincerely researched on a large scale.

    Bramcharya is really good but not for all other than Sanyasis / sanyasins and may be for females. For females, because they do not face problems like performance like males and need face guilty for not performing / failure in sex after marriage. Also if a female do not have control and full of over lust, then it might effect the samsara after her marriage. Because mostly families sustain because of the females and not males. so for females it might be important. For the other people (male youth) who intend to lead a family life, it is required in controlled manner and not 100%. Controlled manner because, if they do not have control on themselves they may indulge in unethical issues like rapes, extra marital relationships which are sins. so control for them is very very important and to build a proper character.

    Use it or lose it: It is important to send proper blood flow to the male organ so that it receives ample oxygen and its cells remain healthy. If proper oxygen is not supplied to the cells for a very long period of time what happens? The cells may become unhealthy. Coming to the sex problem, once the youth loses the power, it is quite difficult (what I feel, or might may take time)to make fully virile even after giving him the best of the best medicines (even with gold combinations). So I feel it is important to encourage males (not females) who intend to lead a family life to mastrubate (too keep the male organ healthy) once in a week, max not more than twice a week. Also they should be told not to fascinate by dreaming of married women, guru’s daughter, sacred women etc. They can fascinate by thinking of self created (out of imagination) beautiful women or beautiful animated beauties to keep out of the sin. The whole idea here is to keep the male organ healthy, to keep the testosterone levels up to the mark so that when there is a demand from their life partner they should not fail and feel guilty of not performing. Later after marriage, if their are wives are spiritual and have good control on sex, then these people can (after becoming father) gradually divert themselves into complete bramcharya path to attain Moksha / Liberation. Also the youth should be restricted in watching porn so as to not to corrupt their minds unnecessarily. It is a natural god given good instinct that should be followed. To much of unnecessary things or too much of knowledge is not a good thing.

    Swamy Vivekanada might had achieved many things by complete bramcharya for 12 years. But remember he also suffered from Diabetes when he died. Physical exercise is also important to keep the body healthy. I think after so many years of bramcharya, if he is married then he might face issues in sexual life for abstaining for a very long time. He might be successful with the help of God’s grace or by chanting some vedic mantras. But for a normal person it might be difficult. For a normal person if he fails he might feel a lot of guilty and may go into depression. Today Doctors (not you) are en cashing on people’s weaknesses like sex debility, baldness, Diabetis, skin diseases, beauty etc. For swamy vivekananda it is okay to follow Bramcharya has he had taken up the sanyasa route. Today if it is destined or if there is God’s grace males can become fathers. Even through PE if the semen falls near the entrance of the Vagina, the sperms inside it may travel inside and cause fertility in female. But legal (only with his wife, Dharma Kama) healthy performance is what matters for a male. It is a manliness for a male.

    Sir, please take this seriously and help the youth, which is possible by a person like you.

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Dear sir, a few things to consider –
      1. For the youth, who have no intent to become Sanyasins, it is good if they control their sense organs and follow brahmacharya “as much and as long as they can” Their Brahmacharya might get broken in between due to distractions etc, but there should be an attempt to follow it to their strength.
      During pre-marriage life, I have followed Brahmacharya for six months continuously and can assure you that no such sexual problems such as PE, etc occur post marriage.
      In fact, those who have better control over their mind, can enjoy sexual act better, after marriage. Another point is, having a better control over mind helps the person to be 100 % loyal to his / her spouse.

      As sex is just a part of life, having good control over mind helps the person to achieve greater things in work life and meditation life as well.

      Swami Vivekananda used to exercise.
      The problem with his health was, (best guess), he was not attentive towards his health at all. Let me share a real story about the great master:
      Once residing in a disciple’s home in USA, Swamiji was looking at the mirror again and again. By this, the disciple got really confused. How can a Sanyasi be so attracted towards his own body that he looks at the mirror repeatedly.

      After a while, Swamiji called the disciple and said – “no matter how many times I look into the mirror, due to dispassion, I cannot exactly remember my physique!”

  59. PAWAN KUMAR says:

    nice article Sir

  60. how about is a person starts brahmacharya from the age of 27 ,if he had not done earlier ?

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Brahmacharya can be started by anyone at anytime. Irrespective of one’s past.
      One may argue that, it will not be purest form of Brahmacharya. But who cares? You have got to know about it now, and want to follow it now. Just start now. It is never late to start on the path of sacredness.

  61. Shridhar says:

    Hi Sir acquiring Abstinence from masturbation means suppressing the Sexual Energy ?
    Because I have read an article somewhere, we need to sublimate that sexual energy to positive action.
    Thank You

    • Dr J V Hebbar MD(Ayu) says:

      Hi, there is no concept of acquiring abstinence (or maintaining Brahmacharya) with masturbation. Masturbation is not a means of suppression of sexual energy.

  62. Masturbation is a natural phenomenon that happens following puberty, but after this a man or woman should lead a celebate life for the attainment of God and unity with the Supreme Being. It is unnatural for men and women to make a habit out of masturbation and sex to feed the demons of lust and desire contrary to what anyone says; whether they are a medical doctor or otherwise. The mind must become purified to dwell on God at all times and therefore absolute continence is necessary as well as the renouncement of lust in all forms, which I have already expounded upon as a gate to hell in the Bhagavad-Gita.

  63. Shantaya says:

    I had practiced celibacy for 6 months total at one point before getting married and I found that the benefits were absolutely amazing. I felt very happy pretty much every day and after I would say 3 month especially, something happened and my life seemed to be full of joy and love. I had a very sharp memory and concentration and the amount of inspiration that I had was incredible. It was like having huge ideas come to me every second without thinking. You will also notice your speech improve and it becomes more elegant, the skin improves, and you become more magnetic too. You will be able to walk into a room full of people and everyone will look at you even if you are wearing not very assuming clothes because you will have a power about you. ( I got my kundalini awakened a few years ago in a group called Sahaja yoga meditation.) It was very fast and after sometime I began practicing celibacy and this is when I started to experience some incredible things. I would recommend all those who practice celibacy to get their kundalini’s awakened and try Sahaja Yoga meditation and I promise you will see what I mean very fast. Just like any experiment, I would say try Sahaja Yoga along with celibacy for at least some time so you can really feel what those great saints where talking about in the past. Also it is of course not a sin to get married ,but I have seen that it does take away spiritual energy especially engaging in sex. I plan on taking it up again because there are just too many great things about it to keep denying myself absolute celibacy. The most important thing out of the numerous gifts it gives you is that it gave me complete joy and detachment from any negative thing in life that came up. You just are above worldly things. Nothing disturbs you and you even enjoy the so called negative things that happen. Trust me when I say it is truly worth it.

    Wishing everyone who wishes to undertake celibacy and purity to continue on
    their journey with the seal of a warrior and to keep it up no matter what .

    All my love,

  64. SOURABH GANDHI says:

    sir i also wanna share thats happening . . few times ago there was a vibration of veerya whch i was able to hear. now its gone .its changes with prana. i think now no sperms forms it automatically converted into prana. i m feeling so much energetic. memory increased . no need to think. confidence increased.

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